I am so sorry you are going through this and can imagine what a shock this is for you. I am sure you have been suspicious of your husband a few times in those 4 years, but, I doubt you ever thought he had children you didn't know about. We take our marriage vows and they are there for a reason and it's just not the religious concept "before the eyes of God", but also to each other. Your husband has forgotten about those vows and has deeply hurt you not to mention disrespecting your feelings. You can do one of two things: If he's been good to you, you feel he's made a mistake and was too chicken to own up to cheating and he isn't seeing this woman any longer but hanging around because of the child, then you have the control of forgiving him. However, realize that he should be paying child support and that can put pressure on your finances in your marriage. Or, you can walk right out of the marriage and file for divorce. I wouldn't blame you. As much as it hurts you this man has been cheating for 4 years! Now he has a child. He should have been thinking of the both of you and the working towards a future for the both of you. To cheat on the person you are suppose to love is the lowest and most unforgiveable thing you can do. If people fall out of love or don't get along the honest thing is to at least get a separation to decide if you want a divorce. Sometimes during a separation people mature more and they may get back together. In your case, it's obvious he has broken your heart so how could you ever trust him again. My own opinion is, I would kick his butt out that door! Get a separation and give yourself time to decide if you want a divorce or not (give it at least 6 months) or, if he says he loves this other woman, file for divorce right away. I would see a lawyer first to see what your rights are regarding material things such as a house, furniture and if you should be paid anything (if you aren't working) and custody of any children and of course child support. Good luck hon Marcy It's a personal decision. Some factors to consider: 1. Are you both committed to each other? 2. Can you live with the other woman and the child in your life (even if you don't want to, the child will continue to be part of the mix). 3. He may be obligated to pay child support. How will that financially impact your lives? 4. Your ages. If you are young, starting over is easier (not that any of this is easy), than if you have invested many years in the relationship. 5. Are you willing/ able to go through counseling? 6. Is this the last straw or the first?
This is because his conscience is killing him.
You should tell your friend that he is cheating its best that she knows.
I have found that the accuser should be the accusee. Meaning they are cheating and have a guilty conscience.
no you cant sorry
the moment you found out that he was cheating on you
it could possibly be meaning that your husband is cheating and has gotten another woman pregnant.
See if you could get some proof of cheating. Perhaps you can call some numbers you've found on his phone. When you do, figure out what you'd like to do from there. You would have to decide if you want to stay with him knowing what you do.
some people are getting a divorce because there both getting beaten on or they are fighting with each other or u the wife is finding that your husband is cheating or you the husband found out that you wife is cheating on another man so that's why people are getting a divorce today?
Just because your husband has a bank account with another woman's name on it doesn't necessarily mean that he has been cheating. It could well be a relative such as an aunt or someone else in the family who needs assistance in their finances. If you know the full name of the woman then check it out first by looking in the phone directory to see if her name is there or, hire a detective for those times your husband is not around and may be cheating before accusing your husband of cheating. If you cannot find out who this woman is then confront your husband calmly to find out who it is on the joint account. If it is another woman or he gets angry you know then he probably is cheating and you will have to make your future decision on this.
If you know your husband has texted this other woman a great deal then you must have read some of the emails. If there was no incriminating evidence in those emails with regards to them cheating perhaps they were not. If you have found not found the evidence and kept a few copies of those texts then you have no real proof. If this woman lives in the same town or city then the only way you can prove for sure your husband is cheating is by hiring a detective. Interview investigators and see what their price range is. Generally one weekend of an investigator following your husband should prove one way or the other if he is truly cheating on you with this woman. If you cannot afford an investigator then decide when you think he is seeing this woman (generally on weekends or working late at the office) and ask a girlfriend if she will join you to follow your husband in your friend's car to get the proof you need.
i would tell the husband its 'me or her' and let him choose!!
There are many opinions on what cheating is, the most popular one is in the sexual manner. Most women would call any kind of sexual contact cheating. Just talking to a person would not mean cheating.