What would a woman married 30 years to a wealthy narcissist be going through emotionally after just finding out he has NPD and is not planning on telling him?

Answer 1

The bottom line is she has invested a lot of her life in this guy and he's loaded. She wants a piece of the pie and she may be tied up in business ventures with him and by divorcing or running away from him she could lose out on her share of any properties or monies they have. Once a person is use to a higher lifestyle they hate to go back and it doesn't matter in many cases how bad the relationship is. I've heard the odd woman say "he can cheat all he wants as long as it's discreet." What she is really saying is, "I don't care, I want the money and I don't want our friends to know we are having marriage problems." This lady doesn't want to make waves and mess things up.