When mom died Medicaid sent a letter saying when dad died they were coming after our homeplace. Mom was not even on the deed. Can medicaid really get it?

Yes, Medicaid can get money from the sale of the home even if your mother was not on the deed. As long as she and your father were legally married, then Medicaid can go after the property to repay the money Medicaid spent for her care.

Medicaid will not, however, kick your father out or take more money than they spent on your mother.