Why are you hated so much even though im nice?

Answer 1

(Note: I honelstly am completely indifferent to what anyone thinks of this. I have just written, for my own sake of closure and expression, a conclusion to what I have learned over the years.)

If you are successful

You will never have true friends.

The only people you can trust not to be two faced

Are your immediate family.

I learned this long ago.

Though for years I tried to detest it.

I tried to prove this fact to be wrong.

In every situation it was 100% certain that a "friend" had been two faced towards me, I always made up an excuse to how it could, if ever possibly, not have been them.

This is even more so for your female "friends" who are the most jealous and thus two faced.

(Especially if you, the successful, are a female yourself.)

Males are not as two faced but still all are to a certain degree and some can be just as two faced as females.

I've had a best "friend" ever since I was two years old and another ever since I was 8 months old only to learn of their secret jealousies and two faced attitudes.

Being a successful and ambitious seeker, however, I can one hundred percent honestly say that NONE of this fazes me.

I just think of the bright future ahead of me and my ambition and hard work required to get there and I honestly don't even have the time to think about socializing with these "friends" nor do I care.

Don't get me wrong, I do go out on Friday nights to the movies with my "friends" and have fun, yet I always know I can never truly rely on or trust them.

I just realize that the moment I leave they will be jealously snarling about my success; although to my face, they are perfectly nice and we have a fun time.

But the funny thing is, even when I TRY to let this bother me, as I sit and deeply think if this effects me, it does not.

I honestly am absolutely indifferent to this.

If ANY effect that this has on me, it is a positive one.

It keeps me motivated, driven and allows me the extra time needed to devote to my goals . It also relieves me of any worry or guilty feelings for not spending time with "friends" those times I don't feel like it or when I am simply too busy.

Of course a person does need SOMEONE whom they can trust and whom they know is not two faced.

They need a person who truly WANTS their success.

As I have learned over the years, although "friends" may seem supportive to your face, and trust me they can be VERY convincing, in actuality, they all desire for your failure.

They do NOT want you to be successful, they envy you and that is the bottom line.

Immediate family members are the ONLY people who truly want you to be successful.

Sometimes you might get in arguments or they might annoy the hell out of you but they are never two faced towards you.

Think about it, that is why these are the people who annoy you the most; they are the people who you get into fights with the most. This is because they are ALWAYS showing their true colors to you.

Sometimes they will annoy you with these true colors but this is because they will never put on a false color or persona.

Thus, those few annoying shades of their true colors always show through.

However, no matter how annoying you might find certain shades of their true colors, your immediate family truly honestly want you to be successful.

They are the only ones who you can trust to be looking out for YOU.

They are the only ones who truly have got your backs.

They are ABSOLUTELY the only ones who would ever do something that is ONLY for YOUR benefit.

I would like to thank my mother, father and brothers.

It is very nice to have them there for me.

They are the only people who are what they are.

They are the only people who truly want me to be successful.

They are my immediate family.

It is funny how much of a better time and how much easier it is to be around my immediate family.

They are the only ones who I can speek to openly, freely and delve into deep conversation with.

Although sometimes I may have more "fun" in the moment of hanging out with my "friends" I always experience time better spent with my immediate family.

Those memories I remember are those of moments shared with my immediate family.

I have openly accepted that this is how it will always be.

For too many years have I tried to prove this fact to be wrong:

A successful person has no true friends. All of his "friends" are two-faced, jealous and ultimately want him fail.

Yet, a successful person is truly indifferent to the jelousies and two-facedness of his "friends".

His immediate family are the only people who truly want him to be successful and who always show him their true colors.

This is how it will always be.

Answer 2

People might be jealous that some people like this quality about you. People might feel like they can't aspire to being as nice as you and so just despise it. Or maybe they don't like how you're always happy when they're not; it can worsen your mood when you're angry or upset and someone else is cheerful and bubbly. Try to make your niceness infectious, and empathise more with the people who don't like you. But don't sink to their level!

You may just be a nerd in particular, like my cousins Olive and Joseph. School was harsh on them; Olive got beaten up everyday but who knows? The popular kids might just be cruel! I'm so sorry! And you might be ugly and nice!

You know I'm an extremely nice person myself and it seems that more people hate me but I know it's not me... it kills them to see someone nice to all and happy all the time because they are not happy and they don't have others look up to them cause they are really miserable and mean to others. don't worry about them keep killing them with kindness... good people's actions will one day rub of on others, hopefully making this world a better place. Chin up!