yes
he thought it was wrong
No, the men in the concentration camp did not remember to say the Kaddish for Akiba Drumer in the book Night by Elie Wiesel. They were consumed by their own struggle for survival and had become desensitized to the suffering of others.
Akida Drumer asked the others to say Kaddish for him three days after he left, and no they didn't say it; they forgot to say it.
The Akiba Drumerâ??s last request is that Elizar should maintain his devotion to his father. His last wish is also to let all the prisoners free.
Elie and his father promise Akiba, a fellow prisoner, to say Kaddish for him if he dies. They also promise to not abandon each other and to help each other survive.
Eliezer and the other prisoners mourn Akiba Drumer's death briefly, then focus on their own survival. They continue to endure the harsh conditions of the concentration camp, trying to avoid the same fate as Akiba.
You can say Kaddish for anyone you know that has died. However, if your parents are both alive, you should seek their permission.
The tradition is to say Kaddish for 11 months after the death, and then for life at Yizkor services (on Yom Kippur plus 3 times a year, once for each pilgrimage festival). You need a minyan to say Kaddish, so it's usually during the 3 daily services, but you can say the kaddish after study if you are with are a minyan worth of Jews who have studied Torah (broadly interpreted).
Kaddish is said at the end (and at several points in the middle) of every prayer service. Kaddish is also often recited at the end of a Torah class or a Siyum--the completion of one of the books of the Torah. Often a bar mitzvah boy will "make" a siyum and kaddish will be recited. But just to say kaddish at the party, no.
Yes, it can be done, but if you can't travel, you can say Kaddish in your synagogue.
He said ("god is testing us. He wants to find out whether we can dominate our base instincts and kill the Satan within us. We have no right to despair. And if he punishes us relentlessly, it's a sign that He loves us all the more.")
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