Why do people stay in aabusive relationship with their mother?

Answer 1

Why do people stay in abusive relationships in general? One reason is because they're afraid of the unfamiliar. An adult child of a verbally abusive mother is accustomed to being abused. He (or she) loves his mother and is "comfortable" with her, despite the abuse. He cannot visualize life without his mother in it, despite that she may be making him miserable. Often the abuser will manipulate and control her adult child, keeping him around, threatening him, making him feel guilty, etc. An abusive relationship is a trap. Getting out of that trap involves learning to love yourself, rely on yourself and be good to yourself. It involves taking a step of faith into a world without the familiar presence of the abuser. It takes guts and it takes a bit of tough love to stand up to someone and say, "I can't be your scapegoat any longer. Get some help and then we'll talk."