Why does a husband makes you feel bad when he cheated on you and you have a male best friend that is helping you get through his deceitful and abusive ways?

Answer 1

Your husband probably feels defensive about his affair and also possessive and suspicious over you and your male friend. He may suspect that you would retaliate against him by reciprocating his infidelity, and he desperately wishes to prevent that from happening. In many cases, even though it is hard to absorb after an infidelity, a husband will still love his wife.

Remember that most people are not proud of an extramarital affair and will become immediately defensive when confronted by it. They may be accusatory and offer excuse after excuse for why it was OK. If you want to make your marriage work, gently suggest to your husband that you both seek professional marriage counselling immediately. If you don't desire this, take some time to consider separation or divorce. Unfortunately, when a marriage is faced with such a trauma, this terrible dilema is the only result: to stay by his side and remain faithful in the face of unfaithfulness, or to leave and try to pick up the pieces of your life. Either way is often very painful, very difficult, and in the end things are never as they once were.