Why would a boyfriend want to remain friends with his ex?

Answer 1

There are a few questions that will help you find the answer. 1) How close are they. 2) Can you fully trust him. 3) Has he gave me any reason not to trust him. 4) Would he have a problem with you meeting her. There are alot of couples that have broken up, and are still friends. They may discover while they were dating that they would be better off as friends. Hang in there because I know it is difficult, but try not to worry! While it's not the usual thing, namely because new BFs or GFs feel threatened by it, sometimes a couple really does just part on good terms, and, while the relationship didn't work out, they still like the person and simply want that person as a friend. I for one have remained friends with an ex.... We just enjoyed each other's company. Truly. If it's any comfort, I think it's more likely that if someone wants to just be friends with an ex, and even get to the point where they're not uncomfortable talking to the ex about new relationships, they probably really don't still have strong feelings, since if they did, it would be too hard to stay friends. Hence, the least likely scenario for ex's to be friends is when one, the other, or both are still in love or lust. :-) But it really just comes down to whether or not you trust your partner. If you do, then don't worry about it. If you think they still have something smoldering on the back burner, then voice your concern and really pay attention to the reaction. Hint: a very defensive one may be a bad sign unless you presented your concern in an offesive or accusatory way. Although rare, it does happen that even divorced couples can remain friends. There are times when both people married more out of friendship (didn't realize it) then realized they made a mistake and part company, but remain become friends. This is usually a happy ending if there are children involved. If this bothers the girlfriend, then I think it's best to communicate and explain how she feels and that it's not such a good idea to continue a relationship with the ex girlfriend at this time. If the boyfriend persists, then it could well be just a good friendship that he may want to continue. If he goes out with her that really is a no-no. If he wants her over for dinner once in awhile, that's OK. When you are going with someone there should be no other dating on either side. It's just as much a commitment as being married. Good luck Marcy First of all, if he actually loved and respected you, he'd not live with you but marry you. You need to have respect for yourself if you want other's to. If the relationship is not long over, then there is an attachment and the boyfriend will not want to lose "all of you". I think people have a certain level of intimacy met with their exes. Unless plenty of time has passed and both have since had new partners, it would concern me.

Answer 2

There are several reasons;

1) He might have really got on with his Ex. The going out might not have worked, but he still might value the friendship of that person. This shows that the boyfriend isn't a complete snob, as well.

2)He might want to hang on incase another chance crops up to ask the girl again. While this shows that he still cares about the person, it's also slightly creepy and insensitive. if his Ex said no, then surely the boy should respect that.

These are the ones I can think of off the top of my head, and im no psychologist.

Answer 3

The real question is why should it bother you. Either trust that its just being friends, or break up and move on because if you can't trust your boyfriend your not going to have a happy relationship.