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Why does your narcissist partner have some kind of sex thing about your ankles?
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∙ 14y ago
Ask your partner. There is no way that we could possibly know without asking ourselves.
Narcissists are prone to fetishes, and may pick certain body parts to objectify about their sexual partners or the opposite sex in general. Some are foot fetishists, some prefer large OR small breasts, some may be the type who like to take photos of their private parts only, and email them to their partner. They objectify people, and that would give creedence to the fact that they objectify "parts" of people. It allows them to further reduce a human being to simply an object for their deviant pleasures. My narcissist use to like to grab my ankles roughly during sex, for the entire duration sometimes, he also wanted me to wear heels frequently during, I remember thinking during that time how strange that he thought feet were so sexual, and put such empasis on it.
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Do boots support ankles?
It depends on what kind of boots you are buying. Yes, boots support ankles but only selected kinds.
What kind of doctor should be seen for ankles?
An Orthopedist or Orthopedic Surgeon.
Why people are attracted to a person with narcissism?
Because you believe the best in people and take them at face value. You believe in giving praise and encouragement instead of criticism. I have been married to a narcissist. It was my second marriage and lasted 9 years and he has just cheated on me and lied to me in ways I find unbelievable. he is now busy in his new fantasy land relationship, denigrating me. Fortunately I have lots of friends who have realised what he was like and are keeping me sane. He has been through strings of relationships. I know I am fortunate I can walk away but he filled my life.On the face of it, there is no (emotional) partner or mate, who typically "binds" with a narcissist. They come in all shapes and sizes. The initial phases of attraction, infatuation and falling in love are pretty normal. The narcissist puts on his best face ? the other party is blinded by budding love. A natural selection process occurs only much later, as the relationship develops and is put to the test.Living with a narcissist can be exhilarating, is always onerous, often harrowing. Surviving a relationship with a narcissist indicates, therefore, the parameters of the personality of the survivor. She (or, more rarely, he) is moulded by the relationship into The Typical Narcissistic Mate/Partner/Spouse.First and foremost, the narcissist's partner must have a deficient or a distorted grasp of her self and of reality. Otherwise, she (or he) is bound to abandon the narcissist's ship early on. The cognitive distortion is likely to consist of belittling and demeaning herself ? while aggrandising and adoring the narcissist. The partner is, thus, placing himself in the position of the eternal victim: undeserving, punishable, a scapegoat. Sometimes, it is very important to the partner to appear moral, sacrificial and victimised. At other times, she is not even aware of this predicament. The narcissist is perceived by the partner to be a person in the position to demand these sacrifices from her partner, being superior in many ways (intellectually, emotionally, morally, financially).The status of professional victim sits well with the partner's tendency to punish herself, namely: with her masochistic streak. The tormented life with the narcissist is, as far as the partner is aware, a just punitive measure.In this respect, the partner is the mirror image of the narcissist. By maintaining a symbiotic relationship with him, by being totally dependent upon the source of masochistic supply (which the narcissist most reliably constitutes and most amply provides) ? the partner enhances certain traits and encourages certain behaviours, which are at the very core of narcissism.The narcissist is never whole without an adoring, submissive, available, self-denigrating partner. His very sense of superiority, indeed his False Self, depends on it. His sadistic Superego switches its attentions from the narcissist (in whom it often provokes suicidal ideation) to the partner, thus finally obtaining an alternative source of sadistic satisfaction.It is through self-denial that the partner survives. She denies her wishes, hopes, dreams, aspirations, sexual, psychological and material needs, and much else besides. She perceives her needs as threatening because they might engender the wrath of the narcissist's God-like supreme figure. The narcissist is rendered in her eyes even more superior through and because of this self-denial. Self-denial undertaken to facilitate and ease the life of a "great man" is more palatable. The "greater" the man (=the narcissist), the easier it is for the partner to ignore her own self, to dwindle, to degenerate, to turn into an appendix of the narcissist and, finally, to become nothing but an extension, to merge with the narcissist to the point of oblivion and of dim memories of one's self.The two collaborate in this macabre dance. The narcissist is formed by his partner inasmuch as he forms her. Submission breeds superiority and masochism breeds sadism. The relationships are characterised by rampant emergentism: roles are allocated almost from the start and any deviation meets with an aggressive, even violent reaction.The predominant state of the partner's mind is utter confusion. Even the most basic relationships ? with husband, children, or parents ? remain bafflingly obscured by the giant shadow cast by the intensive interaction with the narcissist. A suspension of judgment is part and parcel of a suspension of individuality, which is both a prerequisite to and the result of living with a narcissist. The partner no longer knows what is true and right and what is wrong and forbidden.The narcissist recreates for the partner the sort of emotional ambience that led to his own formation in the first place: capriciousness, fickleness, arbitrariness, emotional (and physical or sexual) abandonment. The world becomes uncertain and frightening and the partner has only one thing to cling to: the narcissist.And cling she does. If there is anything which can safely be said about those who emotionally team up with narcissists, it is that they are overtly and overly dependent.The partner doesn't know what to do ? and this is only too natural in the mayhem that is the relationship with the narcissist. But the typical partner also does not know what she wants and, to a large extent, who she is and what she wants to become.These unanswered questions hamper the partner's ability to gauge reality, evaluate and appraise it for what it is. Her primordial sin is that she fell in love with an image, not with a real person. It is the voiding of the image that is mourned when the relationship ends.ANSWERYou may have been raised by a narcissistic parent which makes you a magnet for them.Ive been raised by a narsistic father and mother and brother and sister!And i always seem to attract men into my life that are narcisists, and i don't get itWhy do you think if you have been raised my a narcissistic parent you become a magnet for them?? pls explaine, Ta :)
Is it better to leave this kind of relationship by talking about it with them?
Talking about issues with your partner is the best thing you can do, resolving issues could save a failing relationship.
How come nobody wants to be my partner?
that depends on what kind of partner you want
What kind of sex does a narcissist prefer or dont they like sex?
Narcissists can have varying attitudes towards sex, but some may prioritize their own desires and find it difficult to truly connect with a partner. They may seek sexual relationships for validation or control rather than genuine intimacy. Ultimately, it depends on the individual narcissist and their motivations.
What kind of man tells his girlfriend he would like to sleep f with his sales girl until she opens her mouth A narcissist pig?
No, no narcissist pig, just a plain dumb insensitive one.
What kind of relationship can a narcissist stay in?
A relationship where he rules supreme and the other half feels depressed, devalued, and confused.
When people say a narcissist needs attention what kind of attention do they mean?
Well a narcissist is a person who loves themselve, so they probaly need attention to boast there already big ego like complaments.For example you are cool
Can you put a gay partner out after 7 years?
Yes, you can break up at any time with any kind of partner.
How can you become a good couple?
You need to pay attention to each other. Know the other persons feelings, likes, dislikes, hobbies and that kind of thing. Know what your partner likes to do in his/her freetime.
What are the most romantic kind of animals?
birds...they partner for life
