Why is third party in relationship is bad?

Answer 1

It's impossible to keep it balanced. In attention, security etc etc.

They say love is give and take. Not only giving and not only taking.

Most relations are based on this idea. As this demand drops or not provided. Often the deep down reason for a break up. This can be anything, social status, security, materialism. Even the best balanced relation will be 50.9% to 49.1 Humans are not perfect so here is a solution needed. Hormones create a state of mind to prevent a clear picture. A softer approach on it's negotiations table. Willing to offer in it's personal less important issues. Almost comparable to the example of a divorce. The arrangement I take the brand new real expensive sofa. You may keep the dog. All this gets thrown overboard if a third party comes in play.

While those underlying needs are in every relation. There not written down on paper, sometimes even never spoken of. Trust plays an important role. The 3th party is an uncontrollable influence and a higher risk on the trust issue. While gaps can be covered. Blind-spots can't.

Now I'm not saying it is impossible to love 2 people. Contradict by the dozens. All have different roles. There is one that is complete different. The one that ensure survival of the species. Meaning I sure hope for both. The male younger guy's do love their dad's. Although and naturally sexual interiors is total out of the Question. Even bringing the subject up will make people frown. Therefor the perfect example of 2 kinds of love we all know and not deny. And a perfect proof sex and love are 2 different things

Now there is one big problem. You can't leave the Question monogamy out of it. Hard fact No. Human is not. But that is not entirely true. We have the worst reproduction system on the planet. An offspring gets guided and connected in general, until it's parent dies. Some animals will fight and kill as soon the offspring leave the nest. We don't. The survival instinct is based on a +/- 12 year period. There is not that much to add after that period. If we bring it back to the basics. The chance of survival and production of a better gene mix out weights. The complete reproduction system is designed to be competitive.

That's where humanity and nature meet. Two opposites. The non Sparta society that says If we are being able and thrive that even the weakest will survive. We do not need that much. Nature says nice you believe in god mode. I'm not willing to take that risk If I got 5 instead of 10. Those 5 left will be the strongest In case of a flaw in your God-mode stance 10 have a bigger chance. Even if that would mean coincidence but alive.

Let me take a pipe with sticky grease inside. The pipe is closed one side. I need to clean it. Refresh it's grease. I take something like an umbrella or mushroom shape. Push it in and pull it back. I repeat this several times. At certain point I leave the tip as deep as I can't and let the grease come out at the tip of the umbrella.

It's not a 100% method. It works.

Besides. The grease used is only 70% active. Its 30%, we thought was not viable to do the job, will neutralize the old substance inside.