What are some reasons why some married women have extra marital affairs?

Answer 1

Some reasons are to feel sexy and wanted, to have attention that she may feel is being denied to her, to start up a relationship outside of her marriage, or it could be just a part of her personality even before she was married, that is, being highly flirtatious.

Answer 2

There could be another explanation other than the one I have provided, but these are probably the most common, though I do not know the exact details of your situation.

1. It's possible that she simply finds you attractive and is doing this for fun, with no ulterior motive beyond that.

2. She is unhappy in her relationship and is attempting to find fulfillment outside of it, either through simple flirting or trying to go further and cheat either emotionally or physically.

3. She and her spouse might be looking for another partner in their relationship.

If this is something you are uncomfortable with, be sure to set boundaries immediately and do not allow her to cross them. Stop associating with her, as much as possible, if she continues to flirt with you despite your warnings.

If you are interested in her despite her marital status, and your situation is not Situation 3, consider whether you want to shoulder the guilt, and added difficulties of a relationship where you are helping someone become an adulterer. Especially if she has children.

Also consider that an extra-marital emotional relationship is still considered cheating. If you are essentially carrying out a romantic relationship or your friendship is more than platonic while she is still married, this is cheating whether or not you have sex.

Answer 3

There is no single answer to your question since women all over the world do not act with one mind. In many parts of the world a woman can be killed for having an adulterous relationship while her husband is free to have as many as he chooses. In the Western World extra marital relationships involving women have increased as women have gained equal rights, sexual freedom and access to contraceptives.

In surveys, some of the reasons that women reveal include the following:

• loneliness
• to fill the void of an inattentive husband or a workaholic husband
• to fulfill a need for sex that is not filled by their husband
• to enhance self-esteem
• adventure
• a desire for intimacy not fulfilled by their husband
• feeling younger and desirable
• spending time with someone who cares for her
• seeking a new mate
• they find they communicate better with their lover
• to make an unhappy marriage more bearable
• revenge for a husband's affair
• relief from an abusive spouse
• feeling neglected