Why would the perfect man turn into a monster?

Answer 1

I guess the strain of being perfect must be getting to him? Seriously, there IS no "perfect man" for anyone, we aren't designed to be perfect, so that when someone seems perfect you can bet that some of it is an act that is going to drop some day. When that act drops, underneath you may well find a monster. First off...there are no perfect men (or women for that matter). When you meet someone new and they seem perfect, say all the perfect things, seem soooo together...RUN! this is a technique to manipulate you, then, when you are all emotionally attached, watch them turn into a monster! They overstep your personnal boundaries, use you, make you feel like you are worthless but also keep you afloat with comments like "you are the most important person in my life" or "You are the most special person" etc etc I cannot answer you "why" but I can tell you it exists and get rid of them as soon as possible. Look at Dr Sam Vaknin's web site for guidance. "Perfect" men are a piece of fiction - as are "monsters". Moreover, people don't "turn into" anything. Mostly, they are what they are. It is your perception of him that changed.