What are the steps that lead to sex?

Answer 1

Talk about it with your partner-to-be well before hand and know that you are both sure. If there are any doubts, stop here, abstinence in a relationship is normal and "OK".

Go over your Birth Control needs and options and make sure that you have waited long enough for the choice you make to be effective. Consider talking with a friend or family member about their experiences.Use a condom no matter what other birth control arrangements have been made and regardless of what your partner-to-be tells you about his/her sexual history.

Do not be drunk, on drugs or otherwise unable to make an informed decisison, and make sure that your partner-to-be is in a decision making state.

Make sure that you care about your partner-to-be and that you are not "doing it" for reasons other than what YOU feel. Looking cool, fitting in or just wanting to lose your virginity are not good reasons to have sex.

Go somewhere comfortable, quiet, private and (preferably) nice. Choose a place where you are unlikely to be interrupted.

Don't think too much about how nervous you are, relax and take a deep breath. This should be something you WANT to do.

Spend a long time kissing and caressing your partner. This is called "foreplay" and the more there is of it, the better.

Talk to your partner, say kind, gentle and loving things. First say with words what you are about to express with your body.

As you get into it never stop listening to what your partner says and remember he/she has a right to stop no matter how far things have gone.

Slowly undress each other paying close attention to your partner's body language - are things moving too fast, or do they seem on target? If you sense any hesitation at this point you should slow down or stop.

As you kiss and start to relax listen to what your mind tells you to do, follow your instincts and your partners cues.

Enjoy what you are doing, take time to get to know your partner's body and let them get to know yours. You never get another first time or another first time together.

Before moving on to intercourse (penetration) make sure that you both still want to "go all the way", it is hard to turn back and can't be undone. Sex is not a test of love, it is a way of expressing it.

Follow your instincts and listen to your heart. By the time you are physically ready for intercourse you should be relaxed and comfortable enough to let nature take it's course.

Tips:

• It is best if you feel deeply (and even better if you feel love) for your partner; emotionally empty sex is always a let down.

• There is more than pregnancy to worry about when having sex, you must also think about STDs and the emotional after effects.

• As hard as it sounds don't think too much about what it will be like, this is asking for problems, performace anxiety and disappointment.

• Foreplay is essential as it gives you time to get used to the new feelings (both emotional and physical) that you are sure to have - don't cut it short and don't be afraid to stop at this point if you start having doubts.

• There is no such thing as owing someone sex. You can talk about it for weeks, get the birth control handled, be "right into it" and still change your mind.

More from Answers' contributors:

• If you have to ask you shouldn't be thinking of having sex. There is no rush and yes, there are still virgins out there (both male/female.) There is nothing embarrassing about it and they are the smart ones.

• Knowledge is everything and you should know all about sex such as protection, what the birth control pill can do to you and your health (should you risk the factors to prevent pregnancy); sexually transmitted diseases; condoms; chances of getting pregnant without proper birth control.

• Sex is a beautiful thing and it should be the right person and not just a quicky in a car or a boy's bedroom. Take your time an only 'fools rush in.'

• NEVER let anyone put pressure on you to have sex! This is up to you and smart people wait until they feel they are ready.

• This is too complicated for Answers.com. here are just too many different ways to do it! I suggest a book called Sex for Dummies, by Dr. Ruth Westheimer. It has a lot of good information even if you're not a dummy.

• First of all there are no real 'steps' however the most important thing is that your emotionally ready! Then physically ready, take time to get to no each others bodies (what feels good etc) if it's your first time,it doesn't have to hurt If your partner 'prepares' you. When he/she touches you, what feels good don't rush it! Making sure the female is 'turned on' through soft caresses, basically when the female is 'wet' it will be easier for her before entering her start with inserting a finger, let her tell you when she's ready that way your both more likely to enjoy the experience.

Answer 2

I'm going to assume you're referring to the process of human courtship leading up to intercourse. This process can most easily be broken down into three phases which are fundamentally the same process as the development of friendship between any two strangers, with the exception of two meta-phases: attraction and kinesthetics (physical contact). The stages are as follows: Initial Contact, Comfort, and Rapport.

The Phases...

Initial Contact: This phase encompasses all things from the the first time two people notice one another until the point that the Comfort phase begins. For example; two people lock eyes from across the bar, bump into each other at the grocery store, meet in a professional setting, one approaches the other, etc. Essentially the first acknowledgement of existence between two people.

Comfort: This phase usually follows initial contact directly. During this phase each party is assessing the other in a variety of basically instinctual ways (safety, health, intention, etc.) and building basic trust. This is the human equivalent of two animals circling each other, sizing one another up. The extent of this phase in humans is largely dependent up the each party's level of comfort with strangers and their perception of the other person. It can range from an introduction and some small talk to several interactions over and extended time-frame.

Rapport: The Rapport phase begins once the parties involved have determined the other is not a threat and are comfortable letting one another into their lives on a more personal level. This phase is all about shared experience, connection and trust building; in a traditional courtship model this phase would encompass steady dating. During this phase two people will begin to develop a base of connection and trust through shared experience, which is virtually anything done together from simply laughing at a clever joke to taking a trip somewhere, and emotional connection. This phase never truly ends during the relationship of two people as each interaction serves to alter rapport.

The Meta-Phases...The meta-phases of attraction and kinesthetics (touch) are what differentiate romantic interaction from basic interaction and act upon the relationship pervasively throughout all phases. Attraction in the romantic sense is an instinctual thought process and differs between genders. For men attraction is the perception a female's fertility and ability to successfully produce and raise offspring. For women attraction is based around a man's ability to protect and provide resources. Attraction can begin at first sight based on physical attraction, during comfort and rapport in the form of emotional attraction based on personality and presence or may not develop at all. Attraction could be said to be the most important aspect of any romantic relationship. Kinesthetics is the escalation of comfort in physical contact between two people and is necessary in a relationship becoming sexual. The Kinesthetic phase can begin with a simple handshake or inadvertent contact and will evolve from there, eventually to coitus.

When all is said and done, every person is different and no one model can accurately define all human interaction. What I've given you is basically the equivalent of saying for something to catch on fire it first has to get really hot and then ignite. There's a great deal more minutiae and different ways things can happen but this is the best way I know to explain it. Hope this is what you wanted.

Answer 3

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