By working hard to become a well-respected man in his village, he had become just that.
However, the case where he said yes, but his chi did not also say yes, was when he was exiled. This was a case where Okonkwo said yes, but his chi denied him the same affirmation.
*Okonkwo *Ezinma *Things Also, Chielo comes for Ezinma. Chielo is constantly being "possesed," and she says Agbala wants to see Ezinma.
Okonkwo`s uncle Uchendu says, "Mother is supreme," and asks Okonkwo what it means.
Firstly he calls together his sons and daughters and then Okonkwo, his nephew. He then challenges any of them to speak if they think they know more than he does; no one speaks up. Secondly, he asks Okonkwo a question to which he does not know. When Okonkwo says he does not know, Uchendu calls him a child.
He discourages Okonkwo from participating in Ikemefuna's execution. He specifically says, "bear no hand no hand in his death. That boy calls you father."
Uchendu, Oknokwo's uncle.
Uchendu gathers his children and Okonwko for a meeting and tells Okonkwo of his duty to not let despair break his spirit. He says Okonkwo must be comforted by his motherland, not despondent. Uchendu finally speaks of his own suffering and his wives' suffering, showing Okonkwo that life goes on despite one's suffering.
Okonkwo says to himself several times: "She should have been a boy." Later he says to Obierika: "If Ezinma had been a boy I would have been happier." Later Okonkwo thinks "I wish she had were a boy." Ezinma is one of the few people who understand Okonkwo as well as she does. "He never stopped regretting that Ezinma was a girl."
He discourages Okonkwo from participating in Ikemefuna's execution. He specifically says, "bear no hand no hand in his death. That boy calls you father."
Okonkwo questions where the son of God Jesu Kristi came from, and asks who was God's wife. The representative says that he did not say God has a wife, and after being mocked again, explained the Holy Trinity to the Umuofians. Okonkwo, convinced the man was mad, went away dismissively.
Okonkwo's uncle gives Okonkwo several pieces of advice.Do not despair simply because you are in exile.If you die here (in Mbanta), you will never be a great man.It is wrong to despair because you are in exile and refuse to be comforted by your motherland.His duty is to comfort his wives and children and take them back to his fatherland in seven years.His mother's kinsmen are now Okonkwo's kinsmen.Never kill a man who says nothing (said to people in general).
Such a question shows the vast misunderstanding of the quote. In the first part, the elder wanted Okonkwo to be humbled, and not so derogatory to other lesser men, but in doing so, he chose a common phrase to get his point across. Everyone knew Okonkwo came to his success not through luck but by hard determined work. His success despite his first poor harvests (due to weather) further highlighted his hard work surpassing the ill hand he had be dealt; this includes the lack of inheritance from his father. As Okonkwo had worked hard, so did his chi favour him. When a man says yes, his 'chi' says yes also.
This quote is said by Mr. Brown, a missionary in Chinua Achebe's novel "Things Fall Apart." He is trying to challenge Okonkwo's traditional beliefs and customs by posing a question that questions their validity and purpose in a changing society.