Is it normal for a narcissist to have unstable employment and finances?

Answer 1

The narcissist that I have know of has consistently had unstable relationships with neighbors, relatives, unstable employment and very poor at managing her finances. One can perhaps understand the instability with respect to employment - by nature a N considers himself entitled to a position of respect, to adoration etc. There is a very high return that such a person is looking for, from the "meagre" investment that he is willing to put in. The investment here is the time, effort and skills. The employer and the colleagues hence obviously see a very poor return on their investment assuming that they are able to evaluate him from a distance. The N in my life is a pathological liar, unstable with her finance, blows her money - has no idea of how much money she has and where she has it. But susprisingly, she is scrupulously honest with other people's money. She would not steal. Yes as far as respect goes you may see them float between jobs and part of it is that many N's as stated above expect respect. My N said he expects respect, and he never gives it. He says he's white collar, but has no schooling and only has training for blue collar jobs. He has never beem able to maintain permanent employment. Yep. Debt, debt debt. Credit cards galore. Not always unstable employement. They like to move like nomads, but that is to keep you off balance and also because they have to move-on before they get discovered. They are considred good leaders by most. They are teachers, professors, nurses and especially politicians. They are attracted to professions that give them automatic control and authority over others. They abuse that authority. Professors are protected by tenure. Teachers by union and by the fact that their pupils are minors. Not all of them are narcissist, but these are the fields that narcissist gravitate towards. Recently, I noticed that my military friends are a lot more narcissistic and materialistic than my non-military friends. What is up with that? Actually, the military wives have been most of the narcissist I've ran across. What did the military do to these military wives? In answer to the last question. Why do people join the military....to save the world right? Perfect job for a N if you ask me. The wife question I don't know...maybe to marry someone who saves the world.