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1. You must be certain you have the courage. If you don't and try to get a friend to ask them out, they are most likely to say no, so you must go yourself. You need to be sure you're with the right person and you know you won't turn back at the last minute, or chicken out.

2. Try to get them on their own, in a quiet corner. People generally feel uncomfortable being asked in front of everyone else and it can lead to bullying or teasing and neither is very nice.

3. Be confident, know exactly what you're going to say and how you're going to say it. Don't be nervous shuffling in front of him / her not knowing what to do or say. Sometimes acting a bit nervous can be helpful because they can feel sorry for you and feel forced to saying yes. But if you act too nervous, and end up going 'umm' and 'urrrr' they will think you're just wasting their time. If you're too confident and 'pushy', they are most likely to say no.

TIP: Practice in front of a mirror and write yourself a script of some sort, so that you know where you want to go. Practice your smiles (you don't want to grimace or do a cheesy, nerdy grin), your posture (don't slouch or stand straight up like a soldier), and your voice (don't whisper or mumble but don't shout either, try to be kind, soothing and comforting).

4. When you ask them don't mumble, or be unsure. NEVER ask them the question on its own. Always say stuff leading up to it by using flattery like, "I quite like you. You're funny, intelligent, beautiful / handsome. I love the way you look at me, and the way your eyes sparkle. I love the way you laugh and talk. I love the way you stand, and walk and sit. I love your style / clothes and I love your hair. But what it really comes down to is : I love you. So, do you want to go out with me?"

This usually flatters them, touches them, overwhelms them because they realize that someone likes them, and then they think that it's so sweet of you to say that, that your actually quite nice and good-looking, so in they end they say yes (in most cases!)

5. And finally, the most important part : THE KISS!

If you want to go straight in for it, if you think you're ready, then by all means go for it! But first you must make sure you know exactly how to do it and how to kiss properly.

Most people just start off with the kiss on the cheek, and that's a good thing. But sometimes, just a little kiss on the lips is all it takes to get the answer you deserve.

TIP: DON'T have stinky breath, have a mint or a Chewing Gum before.

  1. Slowly move in: making sure you're not too far away, (you don't want to have to bend over on your tip toes) your head slightly inclined either to the left or the right, but not too much, just so as not to bump noses because that is very odd. Have your lips only just open, but don't open your mouth too much.
  2. Make contact: a light contact at first, and then (if there are no objections) press onto your 'partner's' lips.
  3. If you feel ready to get thing more interesting, you can but if you want to stop there, it should be enough to convince him / her to go out with you. If, however, you should wish to carry on, continue the steps.
  4. Start opening and closing your mouth so as to catching either their bottom or top lip in between yours'.
  5. Add the tongue (!): softly let the tongue enter the partner's mouth. Explore their mouth; their teeth and their tongue.
  6. Slowly pull away and either stop there or, if all is going according to plan, incline the head to the other side and repeat the steps.
  7. Touching: touching is very important, it shows the affection. For girls: wrap arms over the shoulders and around the neck. (Option: start running your hand through their hair too, as it is often a good idea, while continuing to incline the head in different positions.) For boys: wrap arms around the waist, or leave the hands on the hips. (Option: caress the back, the back of the head, the hair).

I hope this this is helpful!

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