tell him straight up....let him know that every word that comes out of their mouth is hurting you one way or another....physical abuse isn't the only one...prove it to them
Absolutely. Not all abusers are hopeless cases.
animal abusers
Not all abusers are narcissists, but all narcissists are abusive. Thats right. Some abusers are BPD. Some are sociopaths. But all abusers have a personality disorder. All are selfish (to a dangerous degree). All lack empathy (when it gets in the way of their selfish desires..and there are innumerous desires, they are never satisfied).
If they were the abusers and did not get help for their actions, than the pattern will continue. If they did get help, things will change.
It has been noted that animal abusers often come frome abusive backgrounds
Only he alone knows how he feels, but, my guess would be he'd have resentment towards you because in his abusive state towards you (the victim) he does not truly believe he has done anything wrong. Abusers take total control of their victims and they feel that the victim is their property just like their home and car. Jail or prison time does not generally help abusers nor does counseling. The stats are very low that abusers will ever change. Good for you for taking this abusive behavior to the court system and you should be proud of yourself. Marcy
Yes, definitely. Usually abusers come from abusive families and may be mentally ill themselves.
No. Abuse is only the result of the choice to use an abusive tactic. In any situation, abusive behavior is a choice, and non-abusive behavior can be chosen at the same time. The frequency of sex in a marriage can not cause abuse, but abuse can definitely impact the frequency of sex in a marriage.
We cannot speak for all abusive men, but we assume that most of them know that they are abusers. Abusive men tend to come from abusive homes, and the behavior may seem normal to them. Others may feel that such behavior is their right. Most of them know the law, but when rage strikes, the law often doesn't mean much.
Most abusers firmly believe that their abusive conduct is proof and indication of deep love. In their thwarted minds, abuse, intimacy, and love are inextricable. The saddest part is that many (but not all) abusers really ARE in love (whatever that means, it's such a subjective term) with their partners, and deep inside are quite horrified by the abuse they inflict.
Yes, there are therapeutic programs designed specifically for individuals who engage in abusive behavior. These programs often focus on helping abusers understand the roots of their behavior, develop empathy, and learn healthier ways to communicate and manage conflict. However, the effectiveness of therapy can vary, and it typically requires a commitment to change and accountability. It's important that such therapy is approached with caution, as not all programs are equally effective or safe.
The best predictor of the future is the past, especially when it comes to abusive people. If someone has abusive habits or inclinations, they will most likely continue to have those traits. This is not to say that some abusers cannot change, because it is possible, but usually only with major intervention. So for most cases, abusive people usually continue to be abusive.