How do I know if a friend is taking advantage?

Answer 1

It is not always easy to tell if somebody is using you, but a few of the ways I've known in the past are: 1, If you sleep with him and then dont hear from him for a while 2, He prefers to go out with his mates then spend a little time with you 3, He doesnt introduce you to any of his friends or family. The best thing I can say to you if you believe somebody is using you is to ask them straight out if they are and if that doesnt work then walk away. Its better to be with someone who you know really cares for you then somebody you spend your whole time worrying about. If he only comes around for sex. Doesn't phone you at least once a week. Doesn't take you out in public. Doesn't introduce you to friends and family. Sure each individual needs their space before and after marriage, but it is also to where you can tell how much that person adores you if you are taken to places where he hangs out with friends and also be able to get acquainted with his family. And does he take you out for special evenings or to a movie??

Answer 2

You know if someone is taking advantage of you when you do not feel safe with them. Anytime there is a question about someone's motives, that is an indication that you cannot trust that individual.

People who care about you wont try to take advantage of you and you will feel secure around them.

I'm going to assume the person you're asking about is male (since "player" usually refers to a guy). Here are some clues:

• He takes cell phone calls out of your earshot. ("This is a business call--I have to take this privately.")
• He checks his phone's caller ID and refuses to answer certain calls, then won't answer questions about who called, or tells you it was a telemarketer or a number he didn't recognize.
• That thing about always "working late" or attending work functions that seems like a cliche? It's usually not.
• He's more attentive and/or sexual than usual. On the surface this seems like a good thing, but it can be suspect because he could be using it to counter his guilt or keep you from getting suspicious.
• Mood swings! Does he become very chipper when he's got someplace to go? Is he moody when he's "trapped" at home with you for long periods of time?
• If he's playing you with someone you both know, keep an eye out for him talking about that person more often than usual, or getting defensive should you say something negative about her.
• His taste in music suddenly seems to change, or he's watching new TV shows that you would've never expected him to watch.
• He's sexual, but not necessarily affectionate. He may stop saying "I love you."
• He's more protective of his privacy than usual. He "guards" his cell phone and computer.
• There are unexplained charges to any of your joint accounts.
• He gets angry and defensive if you bring up anything that seems suspicious. He may even argue and storm out of the house. Guess where he's going?
• Your intuition just plain tells you that something's not right. Trust your instincts, because you're probably on to something.

Answer 3

• If a friend is taking advantage of you they may only talk about themselves when they have a problem and never listen when you have a proper; they may boast about good news, but if you have good news they will not acknowledge it; they may get you to pay wherever you go or they may even ask for money; if a female your friend may keep asking you to borrow some of your clothes and does not bring them back, or, they refuse to let you borrow any of their clothes. A friend who takes advantage of another friend may come around only when they are lonely or need something, but generally leave their friend alone when things are going well for them; they may not keep in touch with the friend that much. If this friend is doing even half of the above you need to let them know and if they do not change then you need to break up the friendship and move on.

Answer 4

You must make a stand and refrain from being taken advantage of by saying, "no". Be polite about it. If the situation persists, then you need to get firmer. Perhaps you may be able to work something out where the other person reciprocates, gives you something to make your efforts worthwhile. But, if you're constantly coming up short, then you need to assert yourself and say "cut it out". Can you do that?

Answer 5

Signs Of Being Taken Advantage Of:

• When an individual in your life doesn't give you the respect you give them.
• If they break dates to meet for lunch, go to a movie, etc. (this includes friends.)
• If they are always borrowing or asking for money from you.
• If you are close friends or mates and they don't remember your birthday or celebrate other events that should be special to both of you.
• If they promise to turn up, but don't and don't phone you to let you know that they won't be there. They are not considerate of your time and feelings.
• When they are constantly putting you down such as calling you names or making you feel below the level they feel they are at.
• When they lie to you or about you.
• When they ask for your help with something, you ask them what they need help with, and they tell you that they don't know.
• You feel like you're being taken for granted.

These are a few. If someone makes you feel more miserable and depressed than happy when you are around them, then they are not worth having as a mate or friend.

Answer 6

Someone taking advantage of you is a relative situation. It all depends on what YOU consider to be outside the limits of your regular generosity. If someone consistently puts an amount of pressure on you that makes you feel uncomfortable, then you should say something because it is your common sensibility calling out to you that something's up. This should first be addressed to the person, as they may not realize they are pushing you past your limits (especially if you are a nicer than average person). Only if the problem persists should you take action. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

If you find they are only coming around when they want something or need something from you then chances are they are using you for your kindness.

Answer 8

If it feels to you that you are being taken advantage of, then you probably are. Stand up for yourself and put a stop to it. Nobody else can do it for you.

Answer 9

In what way, more information is needed?