How do you tell someone you want a divorce nicely?

Answer 1

Well if by the person asking you mean the wife/husband you want the divorse with, one of the best ways is not "I WANT A DIVORCE!!!". No. First, approach calmly and tell the person a few reasons why the marriage isn't working. Explain why you would (this is important) WANT a divorce. Don't ask for it just yet. Then see if the person agrees they want one or not. If yes, they want one, then go right ahead and ask for it, you'll be fine. If they want to keep the marriage just tell them how things aren't working for you and ask for it then. Explain how things might be better if you leave your wife/husband. There is no easy way, but then, there really shouldn't be. Your spouse probably already knows that there is something wrong. If you can learn to communicate you should be able to figure it out. On the other hand, if you can learn to communicate you probably wouldn't need the divorce.

Answer 2

You and your spouse will both need lawyers to represent you, and there will be papers to sign. If there is no prenup (pre-nuptual documents signed) then it may be more difficult a process to get through. Look for reputable divorce lawyers for your area. It is very difficult to declare your desire to end your marriage without your spouse being very hurt and upset, but that doesn't mean you can't ask nicely. If your spouse is not violent or abusive toward you, ask your spouse to sit down with you with a mediator present and gently say that you feel that your marriage is not working out and that you feel divorce is the solution. From there, questions about legal arrangements, division of property, prenups, and custody of children (if any) or pets (if any) will arise. Keep your cool. But if your spouse is violent or abusive toward you (and/or any children), you'll need to avail yourself of community resources for abused spouses and domestic violence, and you may need to stay for awhile in a shelter and look to law enforcement to remain safe and keep your children safe if there are children.

Answer 3

Well to start with I would really considere it and make sure that's really what I want to do then I would sit down with him and explain to him why I want a divorce and try all that I could to work it out before I actually said that it was over and that I wanted to divorce him. I hope this helps and I hope you make the right discission. I'll be praying for you. God Bless.

Answer 4

I assume that since you are asking this question that you are contemplating divorce. Please do not do this. If you have not done so please seek pastoral help. Even if you have already sought outside help, seek it again. God keep and bless you and I will pray for you and your husband/wife.

Answer 5

There is a great book called "coming apart" that discusses the emotional process of parting. It is wise to read through that section, so you can understand the emotional phases of both you and your spouse.

Most of the time, one spouse is ready for the divorce and the other one is not. That is why the emotions begin to control the process. Some counselors will actually do "parting" sessions to help address the divorce.

I believe you must summon your spouse to court filing out proper documentation, having a marriage counselor, a lawyer familiar in marriage processes within legal arenas. Patience towards adjudication and a split of marital status may be achieved

By and bye, in large scripture within The Bible describes divorce. God divorced Israel, because She, would not adhere to what GOD asked of her.... (Jeremiah 3) in the same thread of understanding it is better to divorce each other before you exhibit behavior that may lead to negative results. Of course if you are taking or keeping track ,,,, It is not the UNPARDONABLE sin. IN Proverbs 27 15 a reference pertaining to it is better to divorce the woman than to live in misery ... Jesus Christ , in the desert thirsting for water asked a woman for a tin of water whilst asking her if she was thirsting for the Living Water, gave unto her a gift a WHOLE CITY OF non Christian people partook from HER because she accepted and repented when Jesus asked inquiring of her marital status, -she truthfully described she was not only a divorcee, but declared four failed marriages and was living with a fifth fiance. Think of the Blessings SHE availed those that heard her message, and subsequent SOULS she saved. God Bless all those that believe.. If you must to save, yourself, and health, divorce, and talk to your Father God for repentance pray for guidance, tell God you love him and do not harden your heart for we all make mistakes, peace out..,..,

Answer 6

Tell him straight out. Do not beat around the bush. Doing so will only hurt him more.

Answer 7

Instead of yelling explain your reasons.

Answer 8

You don't. It's never nice.