Sounds like you think they might not be keen to the idea. You are 20, of age, hopefully with a job and taking care of all your affairs. You hopefully have a plan in mind for your future, too. I think it would be best for you to either get together with both sets of parents, like a dinner party or restaurant, and both you and your future spouse announce together, the engagement. If you are the girl, then in the old fashioned way, your boyfriend, can ask your parents blessing for your hand in marriage and if you are the boy, with the girl, you profess your love for her and impending engagement. There may be questions of "how will you"??? so be ready with solid answers that will make them feel better and included in your future plans.
only when your boyfriend is there when there not then you can tell them all you want.
Tell your parents that you are ready to move on tell them that you dont want to do band, and your not good.
You just tell him
It's possible your fiance's parents may not want him to get married and would rather he is settled into his education; career before thinking of marriage. Communication is the key in any good relationship and it's time for you to sit down with your fiance and tell him that together you are going to tell his parents you are engaged. If he refuses then he's immature and if over 18 he is no longer a minor and should be able to make his own decisions and if he does refuse then give him the engagement ring back.
as long as you want to or as long as your parents tell you to
tell them you want to bring a friend
There is no formal Jewish custom, tradition, or law in this regard. But it makes sense in a way, that since the family unit is such an exceptionally strong infrastructure in a Jewish young person's maturation, if the newly-engaged couple are not totally estranged from their parents, then those are the first people they would want to tell.
Well do you need them or want them?
Just tell your parents you want to be able to pretend you are camping in your room. Or, that you don't want to turn on lights when you need to walk to the bathroom at night.
The best way to tell your parents you want to quit the cadets is to cit them down and explain what is going on. Many parents will understand completely.
If your mom said that you can only see your boyfriend when his parents are home, you should honor that. If you don't want to, then just tell her they will be home, but this is wrong.
you should tell someone other than your parents.....someone like your best friend or close relative.........tell your parents when you feel that it is the time!!=) Or if your too scared to keep something this big from your parents, then sit them down and start off talking about when you first had your sex talk with them. Then tell them that it was just an accident or something different...=)