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Of course it is a form of abuse.
The abuser acts unpredictably, capriciously, inconsistently and irrationally. This serves to render others dependent upon the next twist and turn of the abuser, his next inexplicable whim, upon his next outburst, denial, or smile.
The abuser makes sure that HE is the only reliable element in the lives of his nearest and dearest ? by shattering the rest of their world through his seemingly insane behaviour. He perpetuates his stable presence in their lives ? by destabilizing their own.
One of the favourite tools of manipulation in the abuser's arsenal is the disproportionality of his reactions. He reacts with supreme rage to the slightest slight. Or, he would punish severely for what he perceives to be an offence against him, no matter how minor. Or, he would throw a temper tantrum over any discord or disagreement, however gently and considerately expressed. Or, he would act inordinately attentive, charming and tempting (even over-sexed, if need be).
This ever-shifting code of conduct and the unusually harsh and arbitrarily applied penalties are premeditated. The victims are kept in the dark. Neediness and dependence on the source of "justice" meted and judgment passed ? on the abuser ? are thus guaranteed.
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"(c) 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
AnswerAbsolutely its a form of abuse.In addition to the verval abuse he is physicaly threatening you with these outburst.this will cause you great concern and make you wonder and concluded that it was YOU the cause. sadly this is also emotional abuse and will leave you scarded if you allow it to continue and enable him to think its acceptable behavior. stop it now or he will continue making your life a fearfull drama that with you as the receptor of his abuse. AnswerYes, this is abuse. He needs to get into counseling for his anger. He can be helped to learn to control it. You also need to get into counseling. And the two of you together. He can't destroy things and go into a rage just because he is angry. If you have kids now or if you have them in the future do you want them to be a part of that? Get counseling or get out right away. AnswerAbsolutely. I know 3 year olds who are not permitted to even answer their mother's in a disrespectful tone let alone throwing a tantrum like the person you're referring to - whom I'm assumming is an 'adult'. Leave now and don't look back. This is not a person the Lord Jesus wants you hanging with. Answerof course it is AnswerYes it is. I was in a relationship for 2 years with someone who I thought I loved with all my heart. It starts with small things , he always said to me its your fault and smash things and he said watch while I smash this and see how u make me feel. Then it gets to bigger things like throwing remote controls over your head and pushing u around. Get out , as much as it may hurt , get out. U don't want to be where I am now. Our breakup is recent and I am in so much pain , but the only way I think I can get over it is that I am relieved that I got out when I did otherwise it could have been so bad it could have resulted in so much harm.I have lost all self confidence and am pulling through it now. He does not have any respect for you and don't believe his sorries because it will happen again.If u need someone to chat to email me if u like.I am still only 19 but have been a victim for a good year and half. I will be okay though despite the fact that he is calling me day after day begging me to come back. But why do i want to go back to someone that smashes down everything we build together, calls me names and does not respect me. It hurts but it would be for the best. Im here to chat. xx AnswerAnything that makes you hesitate, get scared, or in any other way not feel free is abuse...a cutting look....banging fists on the table, making a gun with his fingers and even pointing to his own head, stomping around, slamming doors, it could even be sucking his teeth if they only do it before they blow. They intimidate. They can control you from across the room and no one else will know. Intimidation is abuse. AnswerYEP! and you will not change him. Sorry, get out or keep ruining your life and the life of your children. AnswerYES!!!! This is one of the very first signs that you realise years later were the alarm bells. You are doing the right thing by seeking advise now, please talk to women that have stories of violent abusive histories with men and think carefully about what you want to do. Ask them the question... What would you of done differently when they were where you are now? AnswerYes but notice if the coward smashes any of his things. My ex would do that but I began to notice he never smashed anything important to him. Its just another way to take away anything that is yours whether it be material, spiritual, emotional and physical. AnswerYes. He's trying to terrorize you. You don't know when he's next going to go on a spree of yelling and smashing things up; you don't know what he's going to destroy next and surely there's always going to be the worry that before long he'll be violent to you, not just to things.Answer
NO. It is therapy, albeit a rather ineffective and ugly therapy. They are not nessecarily doing it for your sake but perhaps rather their own. If they are doing it for your sake, then it is abuse. If they do it alone or are simply intending to satiate their own furor then it is merely irrational. If this person cursed profanity and punched a pillow it would seem like they are blowing off steam, correct? A display like this shows a loss of ethical and rational boundries and a bad sense of taste. However unless it is done with a will to inflict terror, then it is not abuse in the traditional sense of the word. I would still advise against allowing this person near an antiques parlor or a china shop.
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You should get plastic cups and plates at this stage so they won't break.
What else can I help you with?
Is abuse yelling and saying mean things?
That could be called verbal abuse.
How is verbal abuse different from a yelling argument in a relationship?
Yelling is when they raise their voices to get their point across. If they are saying mean things and/or threats, then that is verbal abuse
Abusive yelling blaming taking away?
It depends really. Some people think that yelling is abuse while others do not, blaming you for soemthing you did not do is abuse and taking things away from you for no reason is also abuse. At least that's what I think.
What are the warning signals of abuse?
Threating , yelling , grabbing wrists ,and things that don't make you comfortable.
Is it not totally deceitful for a spouse to report to police she being Abused leaving the false impression of Physical Abuse -- I have not laid a finger on this spouse in 29 years of marriage?
Depends if there is abuse in forms of verbal abuse, things such as yelling, threatening can be classified as abuse. If not than yes it is
Why was David A's dad kicked out of backstage?
he was yelling at david for not doing good enough. they said it was verbal abuse or something like that. he was yelling at david for not doing good enough. they said it was verbal abuse or something like that. he was yelling at david for not doing the song good enough. they called it verbal abuse or something like that.
Give examples of Smashing household things that would make someone fear for their safety Does dropping one tiny item one time in over two decades of marriage fall into this category?
Oh, my friend, accidents happen to all of us, even the gentlest souls. Dropping a tiny item once in over two decades is just a little happy accident, nothing to fear about safety. Smashing household items that might cause concern for safety would be more like dropping a heavy glass vase or a sharp kitchen knife, but even then, it's all about learning and growing from these experiences.
What is body abuse?
What you are calling "body abuce" is formally known as physical abuse. Physical abuse is in no way in any situation OK. It is when someone touches you or hurts you physicaly, as apposed to yelling, or using verbal or mental abuse. None of these things are okay and all of them lead to an unhealthy "abusive" relationship. There are phone lines you can call, and people you can see in total privacy to talk about your issues of any abuse whatsover, and if you are experiencing this, you should consider doing so.
How do you handle an irate customer who starts yelling and will not quit?
Personally, I would call security, or the police. You should not be subjected to such abuse.
What are other names for Domestic Violence?
There is not really a one-word name for Domestic Abuse but it can be called Household Abuse also
Is yelling at your sister illegal?
Yelling at your sister is not illegal in the sense of breaking a law, but it can be considered verbal abuse or domestic conflict. It's important to address any issues calmly and respectfully.
What are some signs of mental abuse?
Signs of mental abuse include the person being more negative, such as name calling, yelling at others, or insulting other people often. Mentally abuse people may also swear and ignore others.
