What do you do if your boyfriend is abusing you?

Answer 1

There is no simple answer, if there was there wouldn't be so many domestic violence cases. First you have to recognize what abuse is and how many different forms it can come in, and what form is affecting you. People confuse abuse with beating, when really, abuse doesn't only consist of beating, you can abuse someone without laying a finger on them. There's no clear answer to what 'you' should do if you are being abused, there are, however, steps you can take and help you can receive to allow you and help you to make the right and safest decision to get out of your predicament, whatever type of abuse it can be. When you allow yourself to be abused you are allowing someone else to have control and power over you. Wether they have control over your body, using non-verbal abuse, or control over your way of thinking, using verbal abuse, you need to regain and retain full control over your body and mind. You belong to you and no one else, you need to first realize this. You can do this by telling your boyfriend who is in control of you, this may anger him, but stand strong and don't show fear, when you show fear he is in control. You, of course, should not stay with your boyfriend if he is abusing you in anyway, but it is a good idea to find someone who can first help you and then seek help for your boyfriend. It's hard to leave someone you love and care about, but you need to first take care of you. Your boyfriend needs help to, wether you want to stay in a relationship with him or not. If the boyfriend does not get help the abusive cycle may never end, he may beat on his next girlfriend, or he may hurt himself, he may be performing the abuse as a cry for help, and he may get worse with carrying out abusive acts. Talk to someone who can help you, someone who will support you and willing to stand by you. Talking about your experience with abuse helps, it will make you realize what you have gone through, how you felt when you were going through it, and what you learned from it, it will typically keep you from being in the same situation again, and if you are caught in the same problem you will know what steps to follow to get yourself out again and you will already know where and who to go to for help. There's many ways to sum up your question, there's never-ending answers, but please get help. Talk to someone, leave your relationship where it is at, no one deserves to be abused.

Answer 2

My advice is to break up with him. I know it hurts and may be scary to break up, but if he abusing you now while he is courting you , he will only get worse. This relationship has no future. He is a loser. Get help from authorities if you are afraid of him.

Answer 3

You report it to the police. You make every effort to avoid the man.

If you need encouragement, moral support, or information to accomplish what you need to do, contact the national domestic abuse hotline:

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Answer 4

I would suggest saying to your boyfriend that he is a jerk and you never want to see him again. If that doesn't work, tell him that he can do anything to you, but if it's illegal, you'll call the police. This should discourage him. You could also try telling him you love him.When a guy hears that, they will run away. Or call the police. Believe me, one of these should work.

Answer 5

Sexual abuse just like rape is about power, not sex. First thing you should do is to break up with him and talk to someone close to you. It might not seem important now but therapy is a good thing. Things like this pop up in the future. Second; report him to the police. He needs to learn that this is not acceptable so he does not do it to someone else. Anyone who does this does not love you.

Answer 6

immediately call the police