What is the definition of abuse excuse?

Answer 1

Taken from the title of my web site, abuse excuse generally applies to parents who wield their children as pawns, weapons and tools in the midst of protracted divorces, parenting time disputes and/or custody battles in order to gain a legal advantage in court. Child sexual abuse allegations are arguably the most reprehensible and heinous of all and immediately cause judges to rule on the side of caution "in children's best interests."

Made maliciously, in bad faith, with malice aforethought, or because the accuser suffers from an undiagnosed/untreated mental health disorder, or because s/he is mistaken and wrong, all of the positive reinforcements are on the side of making and validating said allegations.

So long as the physical residential parent doesn't admit to framing the accused, that parent and child are not caught on tape doing so, and the child during her/his forensic interview doesn't say e.g. mommy told me to say bad things about my daddy," you cannot prove the child has been coached.

Therefore, this is why the sexual child abuse allegation was termed "divorce's atomic bomb" by Blush & Ross 25 years ago. The system is required to investigate the truth or or unfounded nature of the allegation and in a well-meaning but misguided manner oftentimes pours gasoline on the fire by scripting the child, treating the child as a de facto victim of abuse de novo, et al. And this is why it's an extremely useful "abuse excuse" tool to use in court cases.

Dean Tong, MSc.

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