What should you do whenyou lie to your husband telling him that you love him because you are afraid of losing your kids after confessing to an affair but you are still in love with your lover?

Answer 1

• In regards to the question above aIve unhappy for years, my husband is verbally abusive and controlling I wanted to leave him but he uses the children as leverage since I made the mistake of confessing the affair to him he know tells me that if I leave him I will only be a Sunday mom. He still continues his controlling ways, I can't go out alone, he keeps track of my phone bill, hacks my email, tracks my friends on my personal page online, he brings up the affair almost everyday, he blames me for all the problems in our relationship, I ask him for us to go to counseling and he tells me to find one because he is to busy to look for one.
  

I agree that having an affair is not the way to solve the problem but is something happened and that I can't take back but I can say that at least I was lucky to fall in love with someone that loves me as much and that understands my situation and that is willing to make a life with me in the fuure if I am able to fee myself from this prison.

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• Cheating appears to be the easy way out for some people. You have to face the fact you are no longer in love with your husband and retain a lawyer and file for divorce and shared custody with your children. You are being unfair to your husband and your children by continuing to love another man and lying to your husband. Eventually the lie will catch up to you. Seek legal advice and do your husband a favor and set him free and also do your children a favor and not stay in a loveless marriage because eventually you will more than likely try to see your lover again. Someone will catch you and you could well lose your children if you continue on as you are, not to mention how you are hurting your husband.
  

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