Why does my boyfriend verbally abuse me?

Answer 1

I think people who verbally abuse others just have deeper issues themselves. It either stems from the way they were brought up or situations that have occured in the past that they can't deal with properly.

I was seeing a guy once who always verbally abused me. He would snap at the slightist thing. He would start to raise his voice, starting name calling and start to swear. It really damaged my self-esteem and I started to become very shy and self concious whenever I was out or around him. Turns out he was sexually abused as a young child and has never really been able to cope with it in his own mind. It was eating him up inside and he felt angry at the world.

It is something I know he is working on now as it is something he needs to fix. But until he loves himself, he can't love anyone else.

Please don't think it is your fault. No-one deserves to be abused. And if you can't see the light at the end of tunnel - leave.

Answer2: Your boyfriend may do this because of his upbringing, but he also does it because you tolerate it and let him get away with it. Yes I agree with the first answer because I know of that same situation. A man who treated his wife horribly, but after she left him he got the professional help he needed. Turns out the babysitter had started having sex with him when he was 11 years old. Your boyfriend is not going to change until he seeks professional help for what is going on in his head. Until then he WILL NOT CHANGE and YOU CANNOT change him. Breaking up with someone you care about is hard, but being trapped in an abusive relationship is far harder. The best thing you can do is suggest your boyfriend gets help and wish him well. Work on healing for yourself, you will find a man who will love and cherish you for the beautiful person you are.

Answer 2

It can be one of a hundred reasons, or a combination of part or all of them. The bottom line is this. If you are in an abusive relationship, then its time to get out. There are many good individuals out there who will treat you with respect. Do not wind up a glutton for punishment.

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Because YOU are allowing it to happen. You need to realize that he isn't good for you and understand that you deserve someone so much better.

Takes away the whole point if you are unhappy and he doesnt treat you right!

Actually your question isn't specific enough.

It mainly comes down to control, if you let someone treat you badly, they will continue to do so, the longer you stay with him and allow him to treat you badly, the less respect he will have for you, put your foot down NOW, tell him you deserve respect and if he doesnt change, leave.

Answer 3

That is a form of abuse. He might just be a nasty person but then again it might of come from his past. He could of been cursed out alot or heard alot of cursing in his childhood maybe between his parents or something. He might just be mean and uncaring or it could be that this is how he expresses his feelings because this is the only way he knows how to because he heard it his whole life by others. If the case is that he is just a nasty person get rid of him it will lead to a life of abuse and if he could do that to you than he doesnt love or respect you at all. If it is because he heard that kind of fighting between loved ones his whole life and thinks that it is normal then tell him it hurts you and that he needs to stop it now or get help for his problem and that if he loves you that he wouldn't belittle you like that and that it hurts you so much and will eventually make you have ill feelings towards him. If he loves you and doesnt want to lose you he will get help.

Answer 4

You guys fight because of the disagreements and no is willing to shift ground. Continuous disagreement is not good for a relationship.