Most married men who cheat love the idea of the excitement and pleasure they receive from their mistress, but in most cases it is short lived. Married men often lie to their mistress so you are not really sure what feelings he had for you. Generally married men never marry their mistress.
Yes, married men can often let their mistress down as they are often bound to their families and their family will come first and the mistress will be the last on the food chain of life. Men often have a mistress to gain their youth back; sex is at the forefront and romance is heated for a short time, but as the relationship with the mistress persists some married men will become bored with her or, if the wife finds out and threatens to divorce him, married men often choose to let the mistress go and they stay with the wife.
Married men who cheat on their wives and have a mistress generally use the mistress for a sexual relationship; feeling the freedom he is not married to her and can either go back to his wife when he is bored with the mistress or, if he is caught cheating by his wife or he decides to divorce his wife then he would want him freedom and the statistics of a married man divorcing and marrying his mistress is very low; generally he just wants to do as he pleases and doesn't care if he hurts women along the way.
When a married man tells his mistress he has never kissed anyone as long or as much as her is lying through his teeth. Married men when single had at least one or more girlfriends and then they chose the girl they married so passions were high at the time. Married men tell mistresses what they want to hear because it is all about sex. The statistics for a mistress having a married man get a divorce and marry her is extremely low so he is basically using her for his own selfish needs and the mistress ends up losing her self respect.
Married men should be off limits to either single women or married women of any age. There use to be a code where most women didn't go after a married man, but unfortunately the morals of today are sadly abused and it seems anything goes. Women who go after married men or say yes to a married man are cheap and all they generally become is a mistress and the married man may be caught up in his mistress because it is a new relationship, but if he cheated on his wife he generally will cheat on his mistress or, he will become bored with her. The mistress almost always loses out and married men often go back to their wives or, if they don't they will simply move on. It is a very low percentage where married men will divorce and either live with their mistress or marry her.
A married man who expects his mistress to just be friends is either unintelligent or has a high opinion of himself. Married men who cheat and have a mistress on the side generally use that mistress for a sexual relationship only, but some mistresses believe that the man truly loves her over his wife. The man should stop cheating and consider other people's feelings other than his own.
Women who have affairs with married men should know that the affair will always be kept secret from the wife as long as that married man is seeing her on the side. It's often about older men attracting younger women and always about sex. If the mistress feels she is pulling one over the wife's eyes she is sadly mistaken and if caught cheating the married man generally runs home to his wife pleading for her forgiveness. He may either love her and not want to lose her or he won't want to lose half of what the two of them own together such as their home; perhaps a business is in both their names, etc. Even if they divorce he will want to be free and it is a very low percentage of men that marry their mistress. The mistress is a 'kept woman' to a point or entirely and whether she believes it or not 'home wreckers' are frowned upon in society to this day. The mistress has lost her dignity; had her body and soul used and lived a lie. She should wise up and choose single men and leave the married men alone.
Yes, some men get jealous over their mistress, but this does not always mean the married man loves the mistress, but some men feel she is their property and in only a very few cases is it truly love. Remember, this married man has a wife and he would be jealous if his wife had another man on the string. Mistresses often lose when a wife is involved and if the cheating man really cared about the affair she would not be his mistress; he would get a divorce and either live with her or marry her.
A bit on a negative side. Married men thinks that if they leave their wife for their mistress, his life will be different. He will assume that what he have now with his mistress will be much fun that what his been having with his wife, until he finds out the behavior of his mistress or vice versa. Few married men who left their wife only last 3-4 months, and there are some that last a year, no longer.
When some men are married for a year or so and realize that it is much different than just dating and both couples need to face reality such as both working towards the future or, after several years of marriage the married man feels restless as if he wants to reach back into his youth and needs to know other women are attracted to him he will find a mistress. The wife has had to put up with him for a year or several years and sometimes boredom can set in for the husband, but meeting someone new is exciting and the sexual relationship is as well, but if the married man keeps seeing the mistress for a fair length of time he will soon realize that 'the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence) and he is once again bored. Some married men will find another mistress or, they may return home to their wives and settle down. Basically, these types of married men become slightly obsessed with their mistress because their relationship is new and exciting and he has no commitments. This is a high sign of immaturity on the married man's part.
Not all married men cheat on their wives, but statistics show many do. Most married men that cheat come to a point in their lives where they find they do not want to commit to one woman or, they are bored with years of marriage and commitment with their wife and want to taste youth again and have that old sexual desire back like he had when younger. Never mistake for a moment that the wife is always not obliging in a sexual relationship with her husband because in many cases this is simply not true. He is bored and it is the married man that has the problem. Statistics prove that most married men use their mistress or get bored with her and generally end up with their wife or, if the wife divorces him it is rare that her ex husband will marry the mistress.
* She would be called a 'Mistress' among some not so nice names by those that disagree with the relationship. When women have affairs with married men the percentage is high that she isn't honest with herself and knows a married man is safe and she doesn't have to commit to him (same can apply to the married man.) If the mistress is truly in love with the married man she'd better not count on him to leave his wife and come rushing to her. Generally the relationship between mistress and a married man doesn't work out. If the wife finds out the man will either go back to his wife (if she will have him) or want his freedom and wouldn't want to commit to another relationship so quickly.