Why some affairs partner regret having the affair?

Answer 1

Yes and actually most of them love their wives during an affair - they don't stop loving their wife because they are involved in an affair. In all actuality they don't have feelings towards the "other woman" and have no intention of leaving their wives for them but act on their selfish needs without thinking of the consequences and make the mistake of giving in and very poor judgement.

ANSWER:

With this question it's really hard to give someones opinion. There are different kinds of love when it comes to someone or somebody. It also depend on the situation of the couples, there are some who supposed to be in love with the wife, there are some that thought they love their wife until another person comes to the pictures, and there are some that loves their wife but not strong enough to stay and be satisfy with her. I guess if we really concentrate on this subject, lots of us will loose. Men could tell us that they love us but their action will betrayed their words. When this happened everything they share will be question and both parties will realize that it's not really it..

Answer 2

not all of them

ANSWER:

Not all of them do, because the other woman is new and different from his wife. But what makes a married man leaves his family is he fell in love with his mistress. Married men do compare their wives to their mistress. If you ask a married man, he will tell you that he never compared his wife to his mistress, but those are lies. from the start of their affair, the married man will notice that his mistress is so much different from his wife, like she knows how to make time for him, she's always available when he call. Sex are different from his wife. She doesn't have kids that will interfere when they are together, but at home he have kids that needs attention and guidance, so there's no attention from his wife because of his kinds.

This are what my husband had from his mistress, I'm always busy with the kids, house work and yes cooking.

Answer 3

At the risk of sounding ingenuous, some do and some don't.

ANSWER:

Some don't because they don't love their wives anymore the way he to. Some do because he has seen the pain of the wife, and knowing the wife divorce him he will be questioning himself by saying, " what have I done?"

Answer 4

They regret that they got caught, not that they had the affair.

Very often, the affairs of married men stem from their desire to prove to themselves that they are powerful. It is part of the genetic build of the men. Women on the other hand often have affairs because of love or desire to feel more loved.

Dr. Phil says "the biggest predictor of future behavior is past behavior". This is very true. Science has shown that men who have affairs usually feel younger and stronger because the testosterone levels, the endorphine and the serotonin levels increase. It is very very hard, biologically, to move away from these happiness-causing hormones and settle back into a long term process of boring marriage life, no matter what the husband claims. On the other hand, women whose affairs are discovered feel more hurt and more embarrassed. However they remain hooked on the endorphine and the serotonin just like men. Most often these women do not lose the love they had for the newcomer in their life and will dream of the love of the person they once enjoyed during the affair. An important distinction becomes apparent: men enjoy the power and control and the rush of adrenaline that comes from cheating and infidelity. They are more prone to have more affairs. Women remain hooked on the object of their love and are more prone to try and go back to the same third person, if given the opportunity.

Answer 5

Regret often follows an affair because once the excitement and novelty of a clandestine encounter has worn off, the reality of having to deal with life sets in. This includes having to deal with the betrayal of the other half and the children if there are any. Sometimes there is the realization that the forbidden is not as good as it was thought to be and when weighed up against financial loss, loss of family and even status amongst friends and peers, it is inevitable that regret sets in.

Answer 6

• Some affair partners do not regret having affairs as they are usually the type that does not want to commit and others do feel regret and can pull themselves together and lead a happy life.

Answer 7

Some husbands do look back and wish they had stayed with their wives, but most just move on.