Okonkwo was pleased that Ikemefuna was helping Nwoye become more manly and less effeminate. Nwoye complained less, outwardly shunned feminine stories (although he secretly still liked them), and seemed to work harder.
Okonkwo feels frustrated and disappointed when he hears Nwoye grumbling about women because he sees it as a sign of weakness and effeminacy, qualities he despises. He believes that Nwoye should be displaying more masculine traits and strength instead of complaining like a woman.
Okonkwo's disapproval and harsh treatment towards Nwoye, due to Nwoye's perceived weakness and differences in character, cause Nwoye to feel alienated, resentful, and eventually lead him to distance himself from his father and embrace Christianity when introduced to it by the missionaries. Okonkwo's rejection and lack of understanding of Nwoye's emotions and needs ultimately drive a wedge between them.
At first Ikemefuna is fearful, being away from his mother and father, but in time he adapts, becoming an older brother to Nwoye, and becoming Okonkwo's son. Ikemefuna even calls Okonkwo 'father'. He becomes the most manlike of the children in Okonkwo's eyes.
Ikemefuna had a significant influence on Nwoye in Chinua Achebe's novel "Things Fall Apart." Ikemefuna served as an older brother figure to Nwoye, providing him with guidance and companionship. He introduced Nwoye to new ideas and perspectives, ultimately leading to Nwoye questioning his father's strict beliefs and traditions. Ikemefuna's presence catalyzed Nwoye's internal conflict and eventual rejection of his father's values.
Being well respected. - Nwoye agrees with this. In particular, in the later book No Longer At Ease, he seems to implicitly agree with this respect.Having titles. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Being able to represent egwugwu in the egwugwu court. - Nwoye does not even consider this.Killing men in war. - Nwoye has an aversion to these stories.Being wealthy. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Being a good farmer and a hard worker. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this, but is not particularly skilled at farming.Having wives. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this, but does not take a wife early in life.Having many children, particularly strong boys. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Having his daughters marry respected men. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Voicing one's opinion. -Nwoye's opinions do not always agree with his father's, so Nwoye is forced to hold his tongue in the presence of him.Being unafraid of war, and advocating for strong actions. - Nwoye seems to have a dislike of war, and is more a man of peace.Having everything in one's household under control, including wives and children. - Nwoye as a boy attempts to mutter about women and their problems in an attempt to please his dad. However, he doesn't really feel that strongly about this. He does however, exert control over his wife and her opinions later on in No Longer At Ease.Fighting lazy or stupid people. - Nwoye is not a fighter.Having respected friends. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Being able to wrestle. - Nwoye is not a wrestler.Disliking idleness including excessive music. - Nwoye loves music, in contrast with the coolness exuded by his father towards it.Disliking feminine stories. - Nwoye loves his mother's stories, and is enchanted by them as well as the stories told by the Christians.
Nwoye joins the Christians in their compound.Eventually he travels with them back to Umuofia, where he sees Obierika.It is presumed he visits all of the Igbo villages with the Christians.He later goes to the training college for teachers in Umuru.
The beat of the drums filled Okonkwo with fire. Okonkwo felt the desire to conquer and subdue.
Yes, as a human it is hard not to feel compassion for Okonkwo for suffering for an accident. This may be mitigated by the reaction to some of Okonkwo's other deeds. It may be the gods teaching him a lesson.
Okonkwo does not like the festivals because he cannot work during them, and he prefers working to lazing and talking with neighbours.
His witnessing of the grief of a woman who was forced throw her twins away in the Evil Forest, and Ikemefuna's death made Nwoye feel limp inside, without strength.
-Okonkwo had a loss of appetite. -The bitterness in his heart was mixed with a king of child like excitement. I am pretty sure that is the answer.