How upset should you be if you caught your 13 year old son completely dressed in his mother's clothes including makeup underwear high heels dress and a purse?

Answer 1

At 13 he is completely aware of what he is doing and why. You have two choices; one forbid him from doing it (which will not work anyway) or two help him. I agree with the other writer but would take it a bit further. First of all at 13 girls are getting into women things in a big way and so will he want to as well. So instead of taking him to a thrift store treat him/her like a daughter he/she wants to be and allow him/her to get a wardrobe. Here is what I did not my 14 year old when he/she was doing the same things. First of all he/she was much better as a girl than as a boy. What I mean is that he/she was more cooperative when being the "girl"; helped around the house more; did "her" homework and generally behaved. I completely accepted what was happening and what was going to happen. I waited for a three day weekend and we took a complete daughter/mommy day for "her" transformation.

I took "her" to a teen clothing store and let "her" pick out some outfits knowing that they wold most likely be more feminine than the usual girl "her" age might pick out. And of course "she" picked out two dresses, three blouses, two skirts, and two pants to start off with. Next to Victoria Secret, yup 13 year old girls shop there these days. We got "her" 3 Bras that would be cup size appropriate for her age and build, one black, one white and one beige; 3 pairs of matching panties for each bra and "she" did want nice silky nylon panties, which you should expect, then 2 camisoles and 2 half slips. One half slip was a really pretty white satin to go with the white satin cami we got, the other was a beige nylon with lace around the top, both very pretty. Then some socks and shoes and one pair of 2 inch pumps for a more dresses occasion. Then to the makeup counter at Penny's for "her" own makeup and I was showing "her" how to use the correct colors and just bright red like many young girls want to wear to start off with. Then to the lingerie section of Penny's for a couple night gowns, one long and one short with matching robes-very nice and petty nylon gowns.

We got home and I told "her" about shaving her legs and under arms and into the shower "she" went. "She" got out and I gave "her" a the short robe to put on and to the makeup section of my bedroom. "She" at down and I did her makeup and fixed "her" hair the best I could for now. It will grow out loger and then we can do more female hair styles but it looked cute. During all this I treated "her" like a girl and not a boy, which is important. "She" got dressed in her new white bra (with some old foam inserts I had-I have since got her nice silicone breast inserts) and panties and slip with one of her new dresses and the pumps at my request. I told her I had a surprise and we went to get her nails done and she was really doing well. We had the most productive weekend that we ever had together and since then have gotten really close. Now at 16 he goes to school in "boy" mode as he calls it but spends every night and weekend and everyday and night during breaks and summer vacation in "girl" mode. I began giving him/her my estrogen Birth Control pills to lessen male characteristics kicking in and I think it has worked. She has stayed a 5'5" and her voice never broke and she has no facial hair. His/her grades have gone up and the attitude is fantastic. I do see her wanting to spend more and more time in girl mode and believe that it will eventually take over completely-I think after this summer we will pursue living fulltime as a girl. She now has few boys clothes. We had an opportuity over Christmas to go to a fancy Christmas party and I bought her a beautiful satin red and gren short taffeta gown with red stockings and 3 inch heels and she was in heaven and looked so pretty. I talked with a doctor abvout this and she said that is not always the case but that I did the correct thing.

Answer

Love him enough to allow him to be who he is. Love is unconditional.

Answer

Don't be upset. If you misbehave at this time, you could be telling your son to hide his feelings, be secretive, induce shame and lower his self esteem. How you feel in less important than how he feels at this tough age. TALK. Talk about dressing up. Find out his desires. If he likes dressing up, create some rules...like when and where. Stop the sneaking, secrets and fear...these are far more harmful than dressing up. If he wants to dress, as you suggest, be supportive. Take hime to a thrift shop and help hime choose an outfit. Have him try it on in the store. Tell hime when and where he can dress, where to keep his stuff, and do your best to help him look good. If he wants to go out dressed, you take him out in daylight (shopping). Would you rather have him dressed like a teenage girl lurking around alone at night without you knowing? Get a full length mirror. This is your chance to be a great parent.

answer 5

tell he code now be you little girl

Answer 2

Not upset at all. Your son must obviously either be going through the motions of figuring out his sexuality OR is just being a boy and playing around with mums clothes because he may think its funny. Either way, now is the time to talk with the 13yr old and make it known to him that you as his parent will love him REGARDLESS of his sexual orientation and that if he wants he can be open with you about everything. Getting upset at him may only drive a wedge between the 2 of you which you may regret later in life.