How often do narcissists marry other narcissists?

Answer 1

It depends on numerous factors. Two narcissists OF THE SAME TYPE cannot maintain a stable, long-term FULL FLEDGED relationship.

Narcissists are either cerebral or somatic.

The somatic narcissist flaunts his sexual conquests, parades his possessions, exhibits his muscles, brags about his physical aesthetics or sexual prowess or exploits, is often a health freak and a hypochondriac. The cerebral narcissist is a know-it-all, haughty and intelligent "computer". He uses his awesome intellect, or knowledge (real or pretended) to secure adoration, adulation and admiration. To him, his body and its maintenance are a burden and a distraction. Both types are autoerotic (psychosexually in love with themselves, with their bodies and with their brain). Both types prefer masturbation to adult, mature, interactive, multi-dimensional and emotion-laden sex.

Thus, if both members of the couple are cerebral narcissists, for instance if both of them are scholars � the resulting competition prevents them from serving as ample Sources of Narcissistic Supply to each other. Finally the mutual admiration society crumbles. Occupied by the pursuit of their own narcissistic gratification � they have no time or energy or will left to cater to the narcissistic needs of the partner. Moreover, the partner is perceived as a dangerous and vicious consumer of a scarce resource: the available Sources of Narcissistic Supply. This may be less true if the two narcissists work in totally unrelated academic or intellectual fields.

But if the narcissists involved are OF DIFFERENT TYPES � a long-term partnership based on the provision of Narcissistic Supply can definitely survive.

Example: if one of the narcissists is somatic (uses his/her body as a source of narcissistic gratification) and the other cerebral (uses his intellect or his professional achievements as such a source) � there is nothing to destabilise such collaboration. It will even be emotionally rewarding. The relationship between them will resemble the one that exists between an artist and his art, or a collector and his collection. This can � and probably will � change, of course, as the narcissists involved grow older, flabbier and less agile intellectually. The somatic narcissist might also be prone to multiple sexual relationships and encounters intended to support his somatic and sexual self-image. These may subject the relationship to fracturing strains. But, all in all, a stable and enduring relationship can � and often does � develop between dissimilar narcissists.

Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"

� 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications

I think that two narcissistic people can be in a marriage, but it will be dysfunctional. My aunt and her spouse are both narcissistic. They have lasted a lifetime, but neither has much love for the other.

Having never been married, I can't answer fully, but I have some experience in the matter. I have NPD, and I once had a relationship with someone with the same disorder. It was odd. There were a lot of arguments, a lot of shouting, a lot of anger, a lot of the time. It was dysfunctional, to say the least. But we had a connection that I don't think either of us had found with anyone else. We were at our best during blazing rows. Of course, this type of relationship isn't for everyone (or most people, really) - maybe I was just lucky with who I met. I suppose it ultimately depends on the people involved. But, for the record, I think we would have been happy to spend our lives together, had an unfortunate twist of fate not put an end to that...

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Of course as a narcissist myself I have to say that my answer "one ups" the previous narcs answer (mine contains humor). I am currently in a relationship with another narcissist; and everything that I have only recently learned about our condition fits like a glove. Ouch!!! And does it ever pierce my heart and soul. Obviously, since I am the half of this relationship who is doing the research which will assist in trying to manage our difficulties and help us to get along better, I am the follower. The reason we get along is that I absolutely adore him! I literally hang on his every word, but I often make the "faux pas" of taking over and offering my opinion or criticizing him. Oops!!! To make things worse, I am the half with the narcissist rage that exhibits extreme outbursts whenever he doubts my sincerity. I have read that I should always agree with him And look the part by adding a convincing smile. If only it WERE a perfect world. To top it all off, when he begins to criticize me, my world crumbles in measurements consistent with those on a Richter scale. After "the next world war" subsides we are back to communicating and nurturing each others bruised egos. Does it HAVE to be this way? Please help. I do not want to end up like the previous story. Thanks.

Answer 2

== == * There are no statistics available. Very few narcissists are diagnosed as such because they often avoid therapy and detection altogether. * Wow...in my situation, she married someone that is obvious N supply for her. He caters to her and treats her like a queen and once she looked at him and at me and said "Laura thinks I'm spoiled...do YOU think I'm spoiled?" The look I got from her was playful at first, but then one of "HA HA" and she finally said "she's just jealous cause her husband doesn't do this for her!"

Answer 3

There is no reason why narcissistic people can not be friends. In fact, they can be very good friends to each other and other people. The biggest problems with relating to narcissisists is when they are your parent or you are married to them. That's when life is a living hell. In any other dynamic, it is easy to draw boundaries and walk away whenever it gets too sticky.

Answer 4

Someone who they percieve as weaker, less intelligent, and less cofident than themselves. Their identity is hinged on where they appear relative to other people. So the person they choose must somehow reflect their own imagined superiority

Answer 5

in real life, this will never happen coz opposites attract! but in case a narcissist does marry another narcissist, they'll never last for even an hour. Normal people learn from each other, especially if their mistakes are reflected. Narcissists will never even learn their own mistakes from each other coz they always think they are right.

Answer 6

Most likely not. For a relationship to work, there always has to be one top and one bottom; one winner and one loser; one dominant and the other submissive...you get my point.

Think about it: narcissists (and I mean the real thing) usually think of themselves first. How could a relationship between two narcissists ever work if neither of them are willing to sacrifice something?

Answer 7

Almost certainly not. The basic attitude of narcissists is "me first," which does not make for good relationships in general, and would be positively nuclear with another narcissist.

Answer 8

can two people who are narcissists get married and be happy, how canthey keep up their mask