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Is it possible for a victim of a narcissist to become a true friend of the narcissist after leaving the relationship for a second time?
No. A victim of Narcissism will probably leave that relationship with several insurmountable obstacles to friendship.
First, victims of narcissism will typically be filled with rage (unless they have bought into the lies of the N and have been broken down). Since there is no reasoning with a N, they have years of unresolved hostility that has not been able to be expressed.
Second, it seems that the N loses his/her "human" status to many victims. It is impossible to view the N as a human being with normal emotions, thought processes, or predictable reactions. That's because a N does not have normal, adult emotional processing. They are broken.
Unfortunately, there is no fix/cure for narcissism and there is no hope of maintaining a healthy relationship with one who suffers it. The victim needs to walk away -- for good. And in the end, it's what the N expects anyway.
What else can I help you with?
Is it possible to start acting like your narcissist mate if you have spent many years with him or her?
There are two types of victims .... one type is submissive and will take whatever the narcissist dishes out while the second type of victim fights back in their own way (but, of course never wins the battle with the narcissist, but certainly will win the war if they leave.) The submissive victim has a lack of self esteem, may fear confrontation or come from a family of arguing and therefore refuses to engage in fighting with their narcissistic partner and eventually the narcissist will throw them aside and go onto another victim leaving the passive victim feeling betrayed, alone, fearful and a feeling they actually deserved what they got. They are very scarred emotionally from the narcissist and will need counseling. The victim that fights back is waging a battle with no end, and only when they stand on their own two feet and end the relationship will they have won the war. These type of victims become so embroiled in the battle that they lose who they are in the process and if they end the relationship they too are scarred emotionally and become angry, can be aggressive and have picked up many traits of the narcissist. The victim has built a wall up to protect themselves and it's an impenetrable wall and thus the victim becomes hardened and they too should seek counseling to find themselves once again.
Can ex make you a narcissist?
You can become narcissistic afterwards, but you will not turn into a true narcissist. Stay away from him and go back to your family and hang around them for a while.
How do you make a relationship with a narcissist successful?
You leave it before your dignity and self esteem are destroyed. That's the closest thing to success you will ever achieve in a "relationship" with a narcissist. ADDENDUM: When you give into his EVERY whim, be prepared to be a slave for him, agree with EVERYTHING he says/does even if he is wrong, keep the supply going full throttle don't request intimacy or question why you're not receiving any, the relationship will be ONE SIDED, do not EXPECT anything in return, NOTHING, be prepared to become an EMPTY shell of a human being...
Why do narcissists cheat?
Yes Narcissist cheats. I have read one who satisfies their narcissistic supply with sex is called a Somatic Narcissist. My ex married one-and he is a pathological narcissist as I know I lived it-It is the most insidious emotional abuse one can encounter- A Somatic Narcissist tends to be very promiscuous-she/he disregards her marriage and have multiple affairs just to satisfy their need for narcissist supply -Admiration-power--The Somatic Narcissist will capture you - control you with their sexual seduction and when he/she has you completely in their control her true self will come out-cruel and unemotional-and when you no longer satisfy their narcissistic supply the Somatic Narcissist will leave you as quickly as he/she entered your life-and onto the next-As I understand Somatic Narcissist have many affairs --regardless married or not. Question what happens when one Narcissist marries another Narcissist-it should be interesting to watch
Do narcissists or people with PDs try to rekindle relationships even if they've been dumped?
A "true" narcissist will always, without fail, attempt to hang onto any relationship in which the narcissist gains "narcissistic supply." A "true" narcissist will not be deterred! They will do what it takes, say what it takes and follow-up with whatever actions are necessary to hang onto narcissistic supply. They will attempt to rekindle the broken relationship because they do not accept the fact that the relationship is over. If you respond in any manner...ie...phone calls, text messages, letters...etc...the narcissist accepts this as proof that he still holds some interest in your life. He will remain relentless in his attempt to gain any attention whatsoever from his supply...ie...you! You may find it flattering that someone seems so attached to you that they will do anything to keep you around, but just know that you are not a human being in the sense that we are human beings. People, to the "true" narcissist", are simply objects in which to gain the attention they so desperately crave. If you can accept that fact (and it is a fact) feel free to continue a relationship with a narcissist. However, if you ever wish to have a meaningful and intimate relationship, you should search out and find a healthy human being. The narcissist will always be a narcissist and there is nothing in the world that will change that fact. Nothing! It is unfortunate because, generally speaking, narcissists are talented, charming and successful people. They simply do not possess empathy or compassion for any human on the planet. Those emotions are not present in the narcissist nor will they ever become present. The part of the psychological make up found in normal-healthy minds is absolutely missing in the narcissist. EXAMPLE: If a person were born without legs, that person could have artificial legs attached. However, the artificial legs will never "grow" naturally. A person born without empathy or the capacity to love does have the ability to observe the behaviors of others who feel empathy and love. The narcissist can learn to mimick the behaviors of empathy and love. The narcissist will never have the ability to "grow" feelings of empathy or love. That simple!
Can you become addicted to a narcissist?
It is very easy to become addicted to a narcissist as they make everyday life seem eventful and exciting with their lack of normal restraints and boundaries. Life without their huge highs and lows may seem dull and grey in comparison, but you must always focus on the trail of misery and destruction the narcissist leaves in their path.answerThe above statement seems to refer to a person with bipolar disorder, and not a narcissist. A narcissist believes he or she is the greatest thing to ever exist. In my opinion, it would be difficult to become addicted to a narcissist, unless you are masochistic and enjoy being second best at everything. yes you can because that's what they do first they seduce you little by little they are not themselves then is just a mask they give you attention nice talks look like they are your friend tell sad storyes about their childhoo how their wife don't care about them and are selfish etc...and then you are hooked they push and pull when you want to stop with them they say see how selfish you are you don't get what you want you are leaving etc....you feel guilty you stay ...and don't forget you love this person and they do make you addicted with their so called love in the seduction fase
Is it worth trying to get to know a person based on romantic interest if you know you will be leaving soon?
It's always worth getting to know people you're interested in. Even though a romantic relationship might not be possible right away, you might become friends and may even get together later in life.
How you maintain only professional contact with your narcissist ex partner without feeding him with supply?
Since we don't know the nature of your personal or professional relationship with the narcissist we cannot offer any definitive answer. However, in any relationship that must be ongoing after the intimate relationship has ended, you need to keep your interchanges non-personal, to the point and not allow any to morph into unrelated chit-chat. If you keep your interchanges non-personal and end the conversation after necessary business is discussed you will not become a supply source and your ex will move on to other supply sources. You need to maintain control.Since we don't know the nature of your personal or professional relationship with the narcissist we cannot offer any definitive answer. However, in any relationship that must be ongoing after the intimate relationship has ended, you need to keep your interchanges non-personal, to the point and not allow any to morph into unrelated chit-chat. If you keep your interchanges non-personal and end the conversation after necessary business is discussed you will not become a supply source and your ex will move on to other supply sources. You need to maintain control.Since we don't know the nature of your personal or professional relationship with the narcissist we cannot offer any definitive answer. However, in any relationship that must be ongoing after the intimate relationship has ended, you need to keep your interchanges non-personal, to the point and not allow any to morph into unrelated chit-chat. If you keep your interchanges non-personal and end the conversation after necessary business is discussed you will not become a supply source and your ex will move on to other supply sources. You need to maintain control.Since we don't know the nature of your personal or professional relationship with the narcissist we cannot offer any definitive answer. However, in any relationship that must be ongoing after the intimate relationship has ended, you need to keep your interchanges non-personal, to the point and not allow any to morph into unrelated chit-chat. If you keep your interchanges non-personal and end the conversation after necessary business is discussed you will not become a supply source and your ex will move on to other supply sources. You need to maintain control.
How should you talk to your adult daughter who was just diagnosed by a psychiatrist not her own as a primitive narcissist and who denies there is anything wrong with herself?
Talk to her like you normally would. Forget about convincing her about what is "wrong" with her. It won't work. You can't force someone to see that they are a drug addict, alcoholic, narcissist, etc. And trying to get a Narcissist to admit wrongdoing? You may as well go try to move a mountain. Its better that she's a narcissist and not the victim of one, but I'm sure it's still beyond painful for you to watch. The only thing you CAN change is how you react to what she does and says to you so that you're not manipulated or become her enabler. You standing tough and not putting up with any "bull" is the only thing that will help your relationship with her. ~ T
Can the narcissist ever become himself and he is a narcissist and so is his mother he seems to look to her for acceptance can he change if she accepts him?
I don't think so. How can change occur in narcissist whose mother is a narcissist as well, even if she accepts him? The very sickness comes from that lack of emotional support given by the mother at the most crucial time, birth. My mother in law has damaged my husband so much that because he is a product of his environment, he had dished out his madness upon me and his children. Sadly, I am the one who had the mental breakdown and has suffered so much. Is there really help for a narcissist?
Is it possible to become Jesus?
No it is not possible to become Jesus in anyway.
Is there a term for people attracted to Narcissists and those who stay with Narcissists for fairly long periods of time?
Many times the victims of narcissists will blame themselves for the destruction of their relationship or for somehow being attracted to someone who is so obviously flawed. The simple reality is, even the narcissist can become quite competent at making someone else feel good for a while. Compulsive liars keep doing what they do because they get good at it and keep convincing everyone that they're telling the truth. It's the same with the narcissist. He/she can make their victims feel good about themselves... up to the point when the relationship is more certain, then the narcissist can show his/her true colors. It's hard to terminate a relationship. Even a destructive relationship like the one you describe. Once you've identified that the problem started with the narcissist, you can start to forgive yourself for reacting to what you've been through, and you can get started moving forward. No, there is nothing wrong with you. But if you keep it up after you've identified the problem, you have nobody to blame but yourself. Now go get involved with a support group and start repairing your life.
