During Hanukkah we light a 9-branched candle holder (called a Chanukiah or Hanukkah-menorah). It is traditional to also play with a 4-sided top (called a dreidel). Giving chocolate coins to one's children is also traditional.
Yes.
Yes.
There's really no such thing as "Hanukkah Dinner". Meals during Hanukkah have no special times associated with them. Jelly donuts or potato pancakes are traditional and may be served at any time during Hanukkah.
Yes. Hanukkah does not add any food rules.
The concept of decorating for Hanukkah is relatively new (only a few decades), and there are no customs or rules about it. Most families do not do any decorating for Hanukkah.
Wine is acceptable in moderation at any time, particularly on happy and festive occasions, of which Hanukkah is certainly one. However, there is no specific tradition to drink wine in Hanukkah.
There are many Hanukkah songs, but any music is appropriate for Hanukkah.
Electric menorahs are considered decoration and can be lit with any number of candles at any given time; unless this is your main menorah, in which case it should be lit during Hanukkah, with the blessings, at or after sundown.
There are no particular clothing requirements for Hanukkah in Jewish law. Whatever is acceptable for the rest of the year is good for Hanukkah too. Hanukkah is not one of the major Jewish festivals.
Hanukkah is a holiday, while "kosher" is an adjective referring to food which is made in accordance with the Torah-rules for preparing food. Celebrating a "kosher" Hanukkah, it would mean that any foods served during the holiday were kosher.
There is no specific Hanukkah party. Some people have parties on Hanukkah and some don't. If there is a party on hanukkah, it can be on any one of the 8 nights, at any time.