It is a common misconception that children can chose which parent they want to live with when they reach a certain age. But the bottom line is, while a judge may question the child to see if he or she does have a preference and, if so, why, it is still up to the judge - not the child.
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it is up to you if you want to grant your child permission to chose which parent to live with, in the state of NJ they do not give minors this power
No, as that shows disrespect for the authority of the court. see link
in the state of nebraska how old does the child have to be in order to choose which parent they want to live with
Virginia
Yes. The child's needs continue, and VA taxpayers shouldn't have to pay for those needs.
Age 18
No, there are no laws in Virginia that makes it illegal for a custodial parent to live with their boyfriend or girlfriend. If you feel you child is unsafe in this situation, you will have to pursue custody through the courts.