What is the best revenge on a narcissistic ex-husband who promised to start paying child support only to make it a game and laugh at you and not pay a cent?

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I have personal experience with this, only my ex was safe from the US legal system as he filed the divorce in Europe. After many years of outrage on my part and taking him to task, I realized he enjoyed it because the focus was on him and he was getting a narcissistic feed from my negative energy. I went back to school to get my Ph.D. in Psychology, forgot about the money, just listen with understanding when my children complained, and ignored his bad behavior. I did this so that I would not be swallowed up with bitterness. To my surprise, this really gets his goat. We only communicate by e-mail and I never answer right away. I give intentionally bland responses that are matter of fact. He will throw back a few attempts to get me embroiled again but soon gives up. I have struggled with money, but my 14-year-old daughter sees me as a stable and competent mom that is a bit strict, but safe. She is wary and guarded with him, but I see her taking a similar approach. If she feels that he is bullying her on the phone, she just states that she needs to go. We can then talk about her feelings and since I am not engaged in the battle, I can listen and support. You have the power to let him have the embarrassment of laughing his butt all the way into court yet once again. He pays (by order of the court) or he goes to jail. Now how is that going to look on his record? LOL Marcy * "Revenge" is not generally synonymous with a person's legal rights. The custodial parent should contact the state of residency's department of social services, child enforcement division. * The law will catch up with him sooner or later...most likely sooner. Once you take him back to court and they see that he has not paid a cent of what he was suppose to, they will either lock him up or give him a month to make the payments, which includes all back payments. If after that month they see that he is still not paying, he will be charged and sent to jail.