Why won't your married but separated girlfriend get a divorce?

Answer 1

And 'she' is who, exactly? If you want to get a divorce and your wife doesn't, you still can get a divorce. Both people in a married relationship don't necessarily need to agree on a divorce. But as to why 'she' doesn't want to get one, I have no idea, sorry. I'm no mind-reader.

Answer 2

You should really be communicating with her and asking her this question. There could be many reasons. Divorces can be messy, take a long while and can be expensive and she may not have the money She also may be using the separation and no divorce as a protection against commitment to another man in her life. She could also still have feelings for her ex. You could test her and say that you will be happy to pay for part of the divorce and see what she has to say. I was married before to a mentally/physically abusive man and I left him flat and got my own apartment. I shocked myself by actually missing him (so I thought) and it wasn't until some months later I just missed seeing male things around my place such as a razor, aftershave, men's clothing in the closet and I really didn't miss him at all. When I first got into the dating circuit I was very wary of men, but was not a man hater. I had heard men speak of other separated women in terms of, "she's got to be hot and wants it!" Where men ever get this idea is beyond me. It made me anxious to meet a nice guy and I was never sure if he thought I was quick squeak between the sheets or he really liked me. The longer I was on my own the wiser I got and I could pretty much pick out the good guys. Give her a little time. Don't be afraid to communicate and ask her about her feelings on the subject. Good luck Marcy

Answer 3

Maybe he still loves her... or maybe he just doesn't want to pay alimony.