How can you develop charm?

Answer 1

Charm can be genuine or forced. I recommend genuine charm because fake charm is just as easily spotted and repulsive as a guy in the corner picking his nose. Genuine charm can be developed by first developing self-assurance. Shyness and charm don't mix. But you can't go overboard and come off as being full of yourself. Essentially, if you smile, laugh at other's jokes, and ask the other person about themselves, you're well on your way. Resist telling other people about yourself unless they ask, and if they do, give a brief answer and turn back around and ask them another question about themselves. For instance, if someone asks you what you do in your spare time, say, "I really enjoy reading the latest bestseller novels. What about you?" And DON'T FORGET, to sprinkle in a few GENUINE compliments, such as, "Oh, you volunteer in a soup kitchen! That sounds so rewarding. I have always admired people who make it a point to help others in a direct and personal way." The non-imposing and non-exploitative charm that helps others blossom come from reorienting yourself to your true self through namasmaran. ---- The last poster did an excellent job explaining the secret of charm, and there is very little I can add except to second what they said. The most charming people in the world are those who know how to make you feel as if you are the most fascinating, enjoyable, and well, . . . charming person they have ever met. They do this by paying attention, listening, really listening to the other person, asking questions about them, and generally acting interested in them. People who are good at doing this, while they are doing it, are charming.