For a sitting Judge, The Hon.George & Mrs Anderson. If the Dr. is the guest of honor, then you may put :
The Hon. George Anderson
Dr Jeanne Anderson
721 Cliff Dr
Santa Barbara, CA 94101
If Dr, Anderson is particulatily touchy about her social status, AND she is the guest of honor, you may put her name first.
"Your honor"
"Your Honor" is proper.
Your Honor is the most common address. Judge xxx is also acceptable.
You may always address the Jude as Judge for life as a courtesy, but the spouse never did or never will have an official title unless they acquire one on their own merit.
A judge should be addressed as "Your Honor" or "The Honorable Judge __"
The letter salutation is written as: Dear Doctor and Judge Smith. The envelope is written as: Doctor Adam Smith and the Honorable Eve Smith.
depending on the law in your state but if you cannot locate them you can put in for a posting to last known address. It has to be approve by a judge.
Address a judge unknown
The proper salutation for a probate judge is "The Honorable [Judge's Full Name]."
If a judge is biased, one should request a recusal or file a motion to have the judge removed from the case. It is important to provide evidence of the bias and follow the proper legal procedures to address the issue.
The proper salutation when writing to a judge is "Dear Judge [Last Name]" or "Your Honor."
Consult a lawyer. I'm sure it's possible to appeal the judge's decision.