You may always address the Jude as Judge for life as a courtesy, but the spouse never did or never will have an official title unless they acquire one on their own merit.
As Mr. & Mrs. You may address the judge in person as judge or your honor as a courtesy. Just be careful not to mislead anyone into thinking he is a sitting judge.
It would read; Judge John Smith and Mrs. Edith Smith; or Mr and Mrs. John Smith. You don't have to put the job titles in. If one has a PhD you could include that.
The judge is the criminal's father.
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You can address a retired colonel as "Colonel (Last Name)" and his wife as "Mrs. (Last Name)" or "Colonel (Last Name) and Mrs. (Last Name)" in the salutation of a letter.
You can address a retired doctor and his wife as "Dr. and Mrs. (Last Name)" when speaking to them formally. If you are on more familiar terms, you could simply address them by their first names.
As Mr & Mrs.
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You can address a retired state senator as "Senator [Last Name]" and his wife as "Mrs. [Last Name]" or "Senator [Last Name]." If they no longer hold their titles, you can address them by their first names in a formal setting.
To the wife only, just as Mrs. She has no title of her own.
Judge Greg Mathis is a retired Michigan 36th District Court judge. He has a syndicated televesion show called Judge Mathis. He lives in Michigan with his wife.