As Mr. & Mrs. You may address the judge in person as judge or your honor as a courtesy. Just be careful not to mislead anyone into thinking he is a sitting judge.
You may always address the Jude as Judge for life as a courtesy, but the spouse never did or never will have an official title unless they acquire one on their own merit.
You can address a retired colonel as "Colonel (Last Name)" and his wife as "Mrs. (Last Name)" or "Colonel (Last Name) and Mrs. (Last Name)" in the salutation of a letter.
You can address a retired doctor and his wife as "Dr. and Mrs. (Last Name)" when speaking to them formally. If you are on more familiar terms, you could simply address them by their first names.
Captain and Mrs.....
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You can address a retired state senator as "Senator [Last Name]" and his wife as "Mrs. [Last Name]" or "Senator [Last Name]." If they no longer hold their titles, you can address them by their first names in a formal setting.
To the wife only, just as Mrs. She has no title of her own.
Judge Greg Mathis is a retired Michigan 36th District Court judge. He has a syndicated televesion show called Judge Mathis. He lives in Michigan with his wife.
The Rt. Revd. Bishop A.B. Smith
Governor and Mrs./Mr. Smith
Use the term Honorable Judge on the envelope. For example Honorable Judge Smith and Mrs. Smith. On the invitation Judge Smith and Mrs. Smith would be fine.
You address an envelope to the husband whose wife is a judge as: Mr. John Doe and Judge Jane Doe.#1: When addressing a letter to couple in which one in the couple holds a high office (an elected office or as in this case ... a judge) or has an official rank (a member of the armed services) ... the person who holds the office or has the rank is always listed first.#2: Judges are addressed as "The Honorable (Full Name)" on envelopes. You would call him "Judge (Surname)" in conversation, or "Your Honor" in court. but in writing a judge is "The Honorable".#3: You don't say if the wife uses the same last name as the judge ... but if she does, most formally (and at The Protocol School of Washington we are always the most formal) she is addresses as "Mrs. (Surname)"So the correct form is:The Honorable John Doeand Mrs. Doe