Why would a never married narcissist take you for a lovely dinner and then become nervous and leave quite soon after sex?

Answer 1

This isn't narcissim, but a man that uses women. You led him to believe that you could be bought off with a dinner. That's not uncommon, but next time, go for the dinner and if the guy wants to squeek the sheets with you, then hand over half of the money he paid for the dinner and tell him to get lost. I've done that in the past when I dated. I owe no man anything just because he took me to a nice restaurant. "Courting" although eyes will roll all over the floor at that word, is just that ... you are trying to impress each other and show off what you have (that just doesn't mean sexually.) I am not a believer in hitting the sheets for the first 4 - 8 dates, depending on how complicated a personality my date had. With all the diseases going around today I often wonder why people (not suggesting you are) have no qualms about going to bed with another partner so quickly. When dating I use to like to get to know the person first and then decide if sex entered into the relationship at all. If it didn't, I moved on. I still think the old ethics of sex saves a lot of pain for people in this modern age. I've learned the hard way ... you always have to pay the price for your own actions.