Does exposing the narcissist to his current associates ever work or do they tend to believe YOU are the one with a problem due to their allegience to the narcissist?

Answer 1

When exposing a narcissist you have to have concrete proof. otherwise it's his/her word against yours. True narcissists HATE the truth about themselves and will deny it no matter what. You can have video of them with their hand in the cookie jar and they will claim it's not them or you made them do it. This being said, don't waste your time unless you can prove what you say absolutely. If you can, well then have a ball. I have worked with a couple of clinical narcissists and usually they don't last all that long. Just never put them in a position to mess with you... since they always will... Also, keep in mind that narcissists have no respect for anyone equally. They are the ultimate suck-up's but would hang their own mother out to dry. True N's are miserable people inside and that's why they are so nasty. They lack a conscience so have no problem lying, it's how they function. N's despise happy people with good marriages and happy lives. Just wave a bit of joy around an N and watch the sparks fly. If you really want to take them over the edge prove they are liars in public.

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Only those associates who are very close to the N can see something weird. The rest may see the N as a normal person. Either ways, it is hell of a problem to expose an N. Narcisissm (NPD) is not well understood by the populace as a disorder and the difficult spelling does not help. People who are familiar with the weird behavior tend to look for a simpler explanation than accept (or get into) something called NPD.

People very close to the N may (and I have really seen this) believe that you are the person with a problem.

AnswerIf his current associates have narcissistic issues of their own or if they aren't actually seeing the bad behaviors you are, then they will most likely be in allegiance to the narcissist. Remember, the narcissist wants power and he/she is likely to have other people around him on his good side. You are better off documenting as much as you can and going to human resources if need be.

One of the key reasons why it takes so long to recover from such an event or person is because the truth is so shocking that for a while it is far safer to stay in denial. This could be said for his "associates". Imagine if you've known someone for a long time and his former girlfriend comes out with this information? How would anyone feel? Stupid? Blind? They' d rather not accept that they too have been victims. And I've experienced this with my own situation. It didn't matter how many stories (and oh there were so many) that I told someone, I still found it hard to convince them of the truth. No one wants to think they've been friends with someoen so dangerous. And I understand that now. So take heed in that. Unless someone says something first, there's no point. You will be scapegoated.

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What you got to do is wait for them to notice something odd about the N then offer your opinions. Its one of those things you can almost never convice anyone that he is such a snake. They have to find out first hand.

Better still. Especially if they are someone very dangerous. Keep all the evidence in a safe Place. Then write a book about them exposing them to the whole world and warn everyone about them but dont mention their real name LOL. Then when they get all upset because you haven't even given even bothered to give them a name. You can reply "sorry I dont know who are your talking about" LOL

Answer 2

Exposing a narcissist to their current associates often backfires because of the narcissist's ability to manipulate and charm others. Their associates may be loyal to the narcissist and believe their side of the story rather than yours, leading them to think you are the one with the problem. It is usually more effective to focus on setting healthy boundaries and protecting yourself from the narcissist's behavior.