If an alcoholic treats you great while sober but mistreats you when drinking is it possible for them to truly love you Or is a drunk person really a sober person talking?

Answer 1

Alcoholics have a disease and it's a myth that some people who are alcoholics have to have a bottle or more of alcohol to get them into an abusive state. Some men only need a couple of drinks and can be abusive. There is such a thing as an allergic reaction to alcohol. Also if the man is using drugs and drinking this is a lethal combination. Alcoholics may start out by drinking heavily when younger, but, instead of growing up and slowing down with their drinking and making a life for themselves they can't seem to stop. Some men (and women) drink their worries and anger away by hitting the bottle, but the worries or anger only seems to intensify and it's generally taken out on their mate. Alcoholism can also be genetic. It's important that the alcoholic attend AA Meetings and that their partner attends Al-anon to understand the alcoholic; there is a great percentage of alcoholics who will admit they are alcoholics and seek treatment that lead very happy and healthy lifestyles. However, the percentage of men that refuse treatment will continue to drink and abuse. It's important to know that all men that get drunk and are not abusive, but can actually be very sedated and fall asleep. Like with any drug, the alcoholic would rather have the bottle than worry about his relationship with family, perhaps children, partner or friends and unless they are willing to seek help for alcoholism it is best to leave the situation.