Do grown ups with kids get physically abused?

Answer 1

Yes! Yes! Yes! I am answering this from personal experience. I am a grown adult (in my 30s) who is also a single mom. My father has been abusive towards me my entire life (physically and emotionally). Sporadically I have stood up to him throughout my adult years and as a result of reading him the riot act or telling him off he and his mother have called and filed false CPS reports against me.

About 3 years ago I made the decision to permanently move to the south to get away from the continued underhanded and psychological attacks. My father, his wife, his mother, son and son's wife (my bro), had a HUGE issue with this move. They tried to convince me not to move for the entire 29 mos after I had told them. I set a final move date in Dec of 2011. Less than 2 weeks before Christmas 2 1/2 weeks before the move date they kidnapped my child and removed them from the state. They continued to terrorize me by not answering my phone calls, my mom's phone calls, my other brother, etc. I had to involve the police (they ignored them), the FBI (ignored) the national center for missing and exploited children and finally the adam walsh foundation. All attempts to recover my child were fruitless until the Sheriff of my county called every phone and left repeated messages that they were going to get arrest warrants. When he called to tell them their time was up they were processing the warrants as he spoke they panicked and dumped my kids at the nearest police station to them. Then it came out he had tried to file a restraining order between himself, my children and me (all based on lies). As advised by the law I filed for a protective order and won. Then they sued me for custody of him (spent almost 20k and lost-at one point literally paying an investigator upwards of 5k to prove me a fit parent).

It is now 12 mos later and me and my children have had ZERO contact with any of them. I must admit to you that being free of the abuse by all 5 family members has been a freeing/liberating experience. I have no doubt had I continued our relationships they would be continuing the harassment. My father has no desire whatsoever to raise my children he just doesn't want me to have the right to do it either (it's all about control as with most abusers!)

Walk away from them if you have to or if you can before the abuse becomes blatant and overwhelming like mine did. The worst part is while they had my kids they emotionally abused them telling them I didn't love them, didn't want them, was addicted to drugs, etc. (all NOT true). If things are really getting out of control I'd suggest you contact a domestic violence or child abuse hotline, they will talk you through it (I've called both to get help). There is NO excuse for child abuse whether that child is a baby, teen, young adult, or adult with their own children it is not okay! Take care of you and your children first