How can you tell when your sister is a lesbian?

Answer 1

If you are old enough to be thinking that she might be, then you are probably old enough to ask her. Before you do, sort out in your head what you know about lesbians and gay men.

Lesbians and gays are basically born to be lesbian and gay. Their orientation seems to be formed before birth, according to most studies. Remember that she is the same mother that bore you and brought you up. She hasn't changed. You just know her a bit better.

If you are thinking she might be, then you could use your reasoning when you talk to her. "Hey, mom, I've noticed you don't have many men friends." Or, "I've noticed that all your sleepovers are with Auntie Kate". Or something like that. Or you could bring up some well known lesbian and make some approving comment. See where that goes.

If your mother is a lesbian, she is probably just waiting for the right time to tell you. So you asking may be just what she wants.

Of course, you might be jumping to the wrong conclusions. Think of that first too!

Read the related questions below

• "Why are some people gay or lesbian"
• "What if your mom is a lesbian"

She is your mother. Ask her and see what she has to say. Im sure if there is something going on she will be honest with you.

Answer 2

The best way to find out is to ask her. If she tells you she is a lesbian, then it is so. If she says she isn't, it's best to believe her unless she states otherwise.