What to do when you are gay?

Answer 1

The best way to deal with it is to happy with what you are and always not to let anything that is insulting about your being get to you. A: I agree with the above answer, I have been "out" for 6 years and ever since my life has been better. It's best just to live your life to the fullest. Being gay is not a illness.. Seek professional help if you need someone to help you A: Don't be put off!

Some people may warn you, "Don't be gay. It will fill your life with difficulties." They think that somehow you can choose to be gay or to be straight. They are mistaken. Could they suddenly decide to be gay, as if by magic? No way!

(Being gay does bring some difficulties, but you are strong! Read another question: "Does gay life bring difficulties (not written yet)" in the Related Questions below.)

Parents might say, "You're too young to know. Wait a few years!" They don't know that you've had this in the back of your mind for a long time. There is probably nothing you've thought and worried about more. If they only knew!

(And why couldn't you come to them for support? Jewish kids, black kids, migrant kids, they could all come home after a hard day at school and know that their parents understood and supported their Jewishness, or their blackness, or their migrantness. But you had to deal with your gayness all on your own!)

Parents might say, "Are you sure you're gay? You should try having a (boyfriend or girlfriend) of the opposite sex, to make really sure you're gay!" Would they say a similar thing to their son, "Son, are you certain you're straight? We think you should try having a boyfriend, first, just to make really sure!" Anyway, you've tried that already. You've really checked out to see if you can be attracted to the opposite sex.

Parents might say, "But the Bible says it's wrong." If you believe in God you can reply, "I know that this is the way God made me. I have no choice. I have to be the best gay person that I can be!" (And you might mention that The Bible forbids us to eat shellfish (Lev. 11:10), so why is the freezer full of shrimp?)

Someone suggested that you know you're gay if you'd rather eat chocolate than sleep with someone of the opposite sex. Mmmm!Chocolate is nice! And shrimp!

Gay people are really no different from any other people, except for their choice of partners. They are cooks, lawyers, teachers, doctors, cashiers, senators and garbage collectors. They pay their taxes, drive carefully, keep their places clean, go to jail for tax fraud, get drunk and crash their cars, make their mothers ashamed of their dirty bedrooms, everything. Just the same as straight people! Except for the person they love and go to bed with!

If you are really gay, then you know that's what you are, and you have no choice. You do have a choice as to what you do now. Do you hold your head up, look the world in the eye, and be proud? Sounds good!
You don't need help. You're perfectly fine. Tell your parents and the people close to you and don't try to hide it. Be happy with who you are.
You are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you. By asking this question, you've taken a brave and healthy first step. Carry on! Bigots have been trying to make us hide and be ashamed of who we are. They're wrong. YOU ARE OKAY!

Answer 2

It depends some on how old you are. A lot of young teens go through a period where they're attracted to others of the same sex, then realize a few years later that they're straight. But if all, or almost all, of your sexual fantasies involve other people of the same sex, you're gay. There is nothing wrong with this! (Read that sentence again and again until you believe it.)

The same rules apply to gay and straight relationships: it's about trust, and helping your partner be the best that s/he can be, and them doing the same for you. The "Plumbing" is incidental.

Until you're old enough to legally consent to sex, you'll have to content yourself with masturbation -- nothing to be ashamed of. If there's a gay-straight alliance in your school, join them. It helps to know you're not alone. And take a look at the "It Gets Better" series of U-tube clips.

Answer 3

Once you relize you are gay, love it and love life. Be proud that you are a member of only about 3-8 percent of the population. Be happy that you live in an era where gay rights are rapidly increasing.

Answer 4

If you are Gay you can do 99% of things any heterosexual can do and 1% of things any heterosexual cannot do, Isn't that great!

Being Gay does not mean you are different to everyone else in most things. It is only the way you are sexually orientated that is different, and you don't need to tell everyone everything about yourself, so get on and enjoy being you, do the things you like to do, and forget all else you have heard. Don't try and change yourself for anyone, not even yourself, as it will just make you unhappy. Let others accept you for who you are, and if they don't like it then tough! Stay positive and you will succeed at whatever you want.

Same thing you'd do if you were straight. Within reason, whatever you want. Go to college. Get a job. Take a nap. Buy a PS3. Hang out with your friends. Watch TV. Have a drink. Play football. Bake a cake. Eat some Pizza. Take a shower. Anything!

Living With Being Gay:

• Retort. Homosexuality cannot be cured by religious acts in any way. It is a normal thing, it isn't "curable". Being homosexual isn't a problem and people who think otherwise are ignorant, it is them who have a problem. If God wanted everyone to be straight he would have made all humans and animals straight, but (if he does exist) he didn't.

• If you're gay you do whatever you want just like if you were straight. The only difference is that sexually you do things with the same gender, not the opposite one.

• There have been many studies conducted and some are still ongoing that suggest that a persons sexual preference is biological. Just as you are unable to select which direction your hair grows, many believe you are unable to pick and choose your sexual preference. If you are gay, there is no reason to feel shame or guilt. Do not berate or harm yourself in anyway. You essentially have two options. First, you can come to accept your feelings in a positive manner, find a suitable partner, and live your life. Alternatively, you can decide to bottle your feelings, attempt to change that which you cannot and suffer an internal emotional struggle. Unfortunately, with the decision to accept your sexuality, you may encounter those that disagree with your decision. Just remember, this is your life, not theirs. Be proud of being gay.

• Being gay is not a disease and therefore you should remain true to yourself. Study on the internet about being gay and you will find that scientists have come up with a gene that may be the answer as to why some people are gay. If a person can be born with female/male sex organs then why not a person being born with a specific gene that forms their destiny. Denying you are gay when you are certain you are, will only cause you heartbreak. Yes, it's risky that you 'come out of the closet' so to speak with family and friends, but, it's far more important you are true to yourself. Gay people can have monogamous relationships and enjoy a happy life with a partner. Gays are also being more accepted into today's society and there are some very famous people that are gay and make any bones about it. Of course you will come across some people that will not like you for the fact you are gay. Those same people may hate another person because of the color of their skin or because they have brown eyes instead of blue! That's not your fault. Stand your ground, fight for what you are and remain honest to yourself. If you do this then you can become anything in this world you want to be and gay has nothing to do with how successful you are in your future ventures. Realize you are as good as everyone else and tell the people that mean the most to you that you are gay.

Answer 5

Well done! An important milestone for you. So now you can find out as much as you can about being gay, about famous gay people, about what you should know about relationships and sexual activity. You should know the laws in your country about being gay, so that you are always safe. You should think about telling some of your friends and family, slowly at first, and only the ones you trust to take it well. There are other questions below.

Answer 6

If one were gay, they could do the same things that other people do. They would work, spend time with family and do things that they enjoy. Being gay does not change what a person does. Just like everyone else, a gay person should work to make themselves happy.

Answer 7

Accept who you are and remember that there are people who love you.

Answer 8

Nobody can turn gay. Sexual orientation is something you're born with.

Answer 9

You live your life, go to college, get married, adopt children, travel, whatever you want to do.