Where do you see yourself:

Here's what the resume advice company Resume Edge recommends as a sample answer to the question, "Where do you see yourself in ten years?"

In ten years, I endeavor to have refined my strategic and client relations skills. I intend to be a leading expert in estate planning. After having proven myself as a senior manager, I hope to help shape the strategic direction of estate planning services. I could do this in any number of official roles. The important thing is that I will continue contributing my abilities in a challenging and rewarding environment.

More advice:

• While it is not usually a good idea to try to be a Jim Carey in an interview, depending on how things have gone and who you are dealing with, you might inject a little humor here and ask: "When do you expect to be promoted?" ....or "When are you moving on?... This could easily break the ice. Seriously, you can easily respond that you have no idea as you have no idea what you are capable of so far, although you know it is a lot. Therefore, you want to make sure you are open and flexible to whatever opportunities present themselves. If you actually know what you want to be when you grow up, you could offer to conduct a seminar on how to actuate that.
• You know when you come to that common situation where someone asks you "Where do you see yourself in five years?" Yea you should call a person on that because that question is silly! You have no idea where you'll be in five years nor should you worry. I mean how depressing can that question actually be? If someone asked me that question five years ago I wouldn't have predicted my life to be like this nor would I have wanted to say my life would be like this, I'm not saying I'm unhappy with my life necessarily its just that in a span of five years a persons likes and dislikes change, the people around them either disappear, reappear, or show up for the first time. The things you once loved could become something you hate or vice versa. Aspirations change and feelings lose their magic. Yes you can say what you'd like to see happen in five years but I'm pretty sure it won't and five years from now when you look back on yourself answering that question you'll probably no longer want the same things. There's always hope but no definite so all you can do is live life like you have those five years to look back on...
• When an interviewer asks this question, they're asking where you see yourself within a company. They don't want to hear you say, "Well, in five years, I will be married to a handsome European man, touring the South Pacific in our yacht with a mai-tai in my hand." They want something like, "Well, that will depend on my individual performance and on the opportunities I'm presented with, but ideally, I will be..." Even if you're going, "Yeah, like I'll be here in 5 years..." act like you will be. They don't want to hear you saying you'll essentially use them to get where you want, and the minute the opportunity is presented jump ship.
• Some might think that you should not tell the interviewer that you want to move up the ladder of success, because they will fear that you might replace them or move on to another job. However, most would recommend that you answer with just the opposite: that you do want to be successful. A good manager wants his employees to be successful and grow in their careers because that benefits the whole company. If they don't want this, you don't want to work for them. As for the actual standards of success and specific career paths, they are very different for different people and different industries. It is most important to show that you do want to be successful.
• Think educationally-- higher degree? certification? Think leadership-- at least one step up from where you are at now.
• Think about what your goals in life are. Then think about what you are doing now. The answer will be somewhere in between, for example "I want to be the CEO of Microsoft and right now I'm studying towards a degree in computering engineering." In five years time the person would probably be "working with a decent computer company in a high position, looking to move on to greater things".
• Be ambitious but realistic. If you are applying for a job in the mail room in a large corporation, don't say you are gong to be CEO in 5 years; but try to find out before your interview where a mail room clerk might be promoted to.
• This is a tricky interview question and definitely something worth thinking about before hand. You should come across as being flexible with strong ideas of several directions you are interested in developing. You should be positive, confident and ambitious but not overly so. Don't say "I want to be doing your job"

Where will you be in five years?

This is a very common job interview question. Think carefully about your plans. Really answer it for yourself, Where do you see yourself in five years? Where do you hope to be?

The interviewer is looking to find out a few things with this question. First, are you the type of person who plans ahead and sets goals? You should be. Second, do your goals match those of the company and the position? Your goals need to fit the career path for the job. They don't want to lose you in a year or two.

You can't really be sure. Think about the situation from all angles. Inside and out. Think until you can't think any more because that's the only thing you can do. The answers are there, just keep your feelings a separate entity from the situation entirely.

If they love you then they would do anything for you and if they didn't but they used you then they would push you aside. The way to tell if they really like you is if they have respect for your wishes and they won't mind if you want to 'wait'.

But whatever you feel is not connected to what they feel.

Sometimes you love someone, sometimes someone loves you. And SOMETIMES, the one you love is also the one that loves you.

• they would do everything in their power to "Unselfishly" show you so.
• they will never be embarrassed to be around you, and
• they will never make fun of you or hurt you.
• they will talk to you all the time and give you space.
• you can tell because you will never want to leave them. You can normally tell when their whole heart and soul is about you. Sometimes that is true love, which isn't normally found.
• they will be all about YOU, instead of other people, they won't be as much into showing you off.
• they will respect your wishes while not just bending to your every whim.

• they won't be interested in you and just want you on their arm.
• they will be all over you when another guy/girl comes around you.
• they will only ever contact you for that one thing and nothing else.

You can test it out. Try talking about something deep, like your plans and goals for the future. If he seems interested in the conversation, you know he's in love. If he seemed 'distracted' or uncaring, then he's just using you.

The person should not want you just for your body, money, or anything that's out in the world, if he really likes you then he/she would start to hang around you or smile sometimes even be pretty shy.

Every couple gets in fights and they make sarcastic remarks, but it's usually pretty easy to know the difference. Just follow your heart and do what feels right.

Here are some tips

Love is a very big word to use now, especially these days, but when you think a guy or a lady likes you, here are some tips for all of us.

• I should be willing to spend some time with you, even though that time will be spent listening to your boring stories. I should wait for the right time to be intimate with you, but I promise it won't take more than a month, because I believe that it will strengthen the relationship. Both of us should know that in our relationship we are both involved here.
• You will know if they like you because they will pick up on all the little things you do. Whether it's fiddling with your hair when you're nervous, holding your elbows when you're cold or biting your lip when you're happy. Whatever it is they will be able to pin point at least one of your quirks.
• You can tell by asking them what they think of you. If it stupid reasons then obviously they are using you. If they are unbelievable awesome answers, then they aren't using you.
• When you ask your crush if you can use his stuff and he farts or burps he likes you.
• If he asked you if he can ''borrow'' your pencil he likes you.
• Before you start dating ask some of his friends if he likes you. If they ask why say ''oh because I heard a rumour, just wanted to know''. If they say yes then ask him out.
• If he respects you enough to keep your relationship private and holds off on the physical stuff he genuinely cares about you. However if he is pushy and constantly brags to his friends about your relationship he is using you for his ego.
• When an x or simply a boy or girl walks in the room and suddenly they are really into you, flirting, giggling and they keep on looking at the person.

Another simple way to tell

Here's another simple way to tell if a girl really does like you or if she's just using you. If a girl wants to spend time with you and doesn't care about anything else, she wants you. When she wants to spend time with you and wants you to buy everything for her and drags you along to wherever she wants, she's using you. If she hangs around her friends and laughs or giggles whenever you come near, she's using you. It's that simple. If you still have doubts about this person, then it's not a good relationship anyway. Don't be afraid of breaking up, it's part of growing up and becoming more mature. It won't be a mistake. Keep your head up. There's always another fish in the sea.

Try to get on with it

There are a number of questions that can be raised if alarm bells ring when a person one has started dating or seeing begins to 'not turn up' for a date or just plain cancel, on a regular basis. One offs are ok, as long as there is communication. Is there is a lack of respect with regard to their communication or rather, the lack of?

If things had started well and then one of you stops communicating, the reason may not always be that the person has decided they have had their 'needs' fulfilled and have used you. If the person who feels abandoned starts to fret and call, text and trouble the other, this may cause them to flee and be even more distant. Try to get on with your own enjoyment, this may well be a chance for you to take up a new hobby or pursue an adventure which may well help you to realize that you may have come across as quite 'needy'. This, in my experience, never helps when the other person has become emotionally distant.

I read that in particular, a man who is having feelings towards someone, they will disappear for a while, to have space and to think. This is known as 'Going into his cave'. Men seem to have a need for space to reflect on his feelings. When a man has had this space, without interruption, he is ready to show he has feelings and the cycle will go on. A woman seems to need the security of their partner being 'on tap' with response and communication.

A person whom you are in a relationship with, if they have feelings for you, wouldn't think twice to let you know what is going on in the relationship. They want to be with their choice of partner and would, in the beginning stages of a fresh relationship, spend quite a bit of time getting to know that person.

A person who decides to abuse the trust, by making the relationship into more of a convenience for them, is using the other person. If someone doesn't enter a new relationship with pure intention, the alarm bells will start to ring.

Try to keep your self-worth intact with regards to relationships, if they start to unwind.

Wiki s contributors share their ideas:

• To be more than friends, you and the person you're interested in must both agree that you have stronger feelings for each other than just a friendship feeling. However, don't rush things. Start off as friends first and as you get to know the person more, things will unwrap themselves. If you and the individual are meant to be more than friends, it'll happen.
• It takes time, a lot of time usually. I was friends with my current girlfriend for over 2 years before we got together as a couple two months ago, and after having an established friendship we're happier than we've ever been. Just stay friends and it will happen in time.
• Make sure that you like that person and that they like you back. And make sure that the person is single and wants another boyfriend or girlfriend.
• I'd like to also add that it is important that you both feel physically attracted towards each other beyond friends. The part about making sure that the other person wants a girlfriend/boyfriend is important.

  I tried to be more than friends with a past friend of mine and she didn't want a relationship because I lived a little too far away from her house. I guess to her, a 40-minute drive was too far. It either will work or it will not. But once it does not, it will be very awkward to be friends again because of the memories.

  Some other advice is that if you two start to date, at first make it daytime dates, stuff like that, but if you both start to want to make it more serious, then go on some night time dates... a movie, or a restaurant, something like that.

• The way to become more than friends is make sure they know how you feel about them - exactly how you feel - so they can compromise. We all know being rejected is really painful and not good if you are weak. Well, it's not good for anyone, really. But you have to take the chance if you want to be more than friends. And you never know she/he might catch on and ask you out , but if not... do it yourself, take the risk. You will never know unless you try, so I'd go for it.

  Let me add this: If you ask him/her out and they say No, then it will be awkward to be friends again for a while. So just keep on the down low. And then, when the time is right, get the courage to talk to them and it will hopefully for you move on from there!! Remember... sometimes it's just not meant to be!

• Say that you have been friends with this boy or girl for more than 3 years and he or she still does not know how you feel about them. Well, you two have been friends the longest and know so much about each other, then just tell him or her how you feel. They might have feelings for you too and were afraid to say so because they felt the same way you did because you could not find a way to tell him or her. You will never know until you take the first step. And if he or she blows you off then you won't feel so bad because you will think at least I got blown off by a friend and at least they know how I feel about them than getting blowed off by somebody else because every time you walk by them you feel weird. That will save you embarrassment. You never know, he or she might be that special someone, and you don't want to see him or her with someone else and you're there thinking, Gosh, I wonder what it would have been like if I had told him or her how I felt. Just give love a try.
• Well, do you WANT to be more than friends? Ask yourself that first. If it's a yeah, then take things slowww... REAL sloww. But not THAT slow that it's too late. Remember how patience has its own reward. And if nothing works out, even if you waited for literally years, it's okay; obviously that meant that there is so much more you have coming ahead of you and you know everything happens for the good. So if nothing worked out and you waited years, it's ok, because you WILL find someone. But in friendship, you HAVE to go slow, so don't worry. Just go as slow and smooth as possible and see the outcome as you go along. It's not as easy as I say it, but it's not as hard to accomplish.
• I believe if you love this guy and you care about him a lot, then he probably feels the same way! If youu think that you want to be more than friends, i would open up to him. I would tell him all this complete stuff about me! When you tell a guy personal stuff about you, he may open back up to you. I reckon this is when he and you will find something within each other that is special!
• If you wanna become more than just friends with a girl, and you are already friends with her, just ask! I know it sounds hard, but I want my best guy friend to ask me. The girl probably likes you if she talks to you all the time, sits next to you, makes eye contact, is friends with your friends, asks you about your interests, etc. So, get out there and ask! You may be nervous, but it is probably going to be worth it.

• Conversation is always good as well!