Is the narcissist responsible for his or her actions?

Answer 1

The narcissist knows to tell right from wrong. He is perfectly capable of anticipating the results of his actions and their influence on his human environment. The narcissist is very perceptive and sensitive to the subtlest nuances. He has to be: the very integrity of his personality depends upon input from others.

But the narcissist does not care. Unable to empathise, he does not fully experience the outcomes of his deeds and decision. For him, humans are dispensable, rechargeable, reusable. They are there to fulfil a function: to supply him with Narcissistic Supply (adoration, admiration, approval, affirmation, etc.) They do not have an existence apart from the carrying out of their duty.

True: it is the disposition of the narcissist to treat humans in the inhuman way that he does. However, this propensity is absolutely controllable. The narcissist has a choice � he just doesn't think anyone is worth making it.

It is a fact that the narcissist can behave completely differently (under identical circumstances) � depending who is involved. He not likely to be enraged by the behaviour of an important person (=with a potential to supply him narcissistically). But, he might become absolutely violent with his nearest and dearest under the same circumstances. This is because they are captives, they do not have to be won over, the Narcissistic Supply coming from them is taken for granted.

Being a narcissist does not exempt the patient from being a human being. A person suffering from NPD must be subjected to the same moral treatment and judgment as the rest of us, less privileged ones. The courts do not recognise NPD as a mitigating circumstance � why should we? Treating the narcissist specially will only exacerbate the condition by supporting the grandiose, fantastic image the narcissist has of himself.

By all means: be angry, be upset (for good and just reasons) � and don't hesitate to communicate your displeasure. The narcissist needs guidance (he is disoriented) and this is one of the best ways of providing him with one.

Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"

� 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications

AnswerNarcissists are incurably immature. They are forever 5 years old. I liken my narcissist to a child who gets in the driver seat of a car and drives around town hitting people left and right. They can't even see, from where they're seated, what they're doing and have no idea of the damage they have done. If someone stopped this child to say "look how many people you have hurt" the 5 year old might have a glimmer of understanding that something bad had happened, but then they would hop back in the driver's seat and drive off. They're too young to place blame, but the damage is real. This is why narcissists are so dangerous. They don't look at all like a 5 year old. They LOOK like an adult and have the powerful tools of an adult: education, money, status. Put those tools in the hands of a 5 year mentality and LOOK OUT. AnswerYes. They know exactly what they are doing. All their stratgies are carefully thought and PLANNED. They are very manipulative and quite smart in that sense.