Can a long-distance marriage work in two military services?

Answer 1

It depends on the people. But if both want to make it work, it will. You can always talk to your boss' and see if you can be stationed near or with each other. A lot of times they will work it out for married couples.

Like it says above, it depends on the people. I happen to work in a job where i deal with a lot of people who seem to like cheating. It always seems as soon as the wives husband goes on deployment not even 2 hours later they get caught cheating, and same with husbands with wives leaving. I made it one of my points to never start a relationship with someone who is in the military. But it't up to you.

It's called "join spouse" when two military members get married they are required to fill out this form. The form gives you three options (I think). They are: Station us together, give us the option of being stationed together, don't bother stationing us together. There may not be a lot of options depending on your jobs. As a side note: only one quarter of tech school marriages last beyond four years (notice how that is the length of one enlistment?). Be sure you know what you are doing! Good Luck.

Well from my experience I am in the Air Force and my husband is in the Navy. It took 9 months after we got married to get stationed together. So yes you have to fill out the join spouse paperwork and so does your spouse and they have to want the same thing you do. If not it won't work and it can take anywhere from 1 month to a year. Depends on your job. And I agree about the tech school marriages. I seen them build up and fall down. I have been in 6 years nothing wrong with taking it slow. Long-distance marriages can work but it takes dedication that you don't gain from someone else or overnight it has to be something you are willing to do. All a part of marriage is sacrifice so if you are ready for that life hun GOD SPEED!! And another thing the military will try to station you together but it may not happen it is in the best intrest of the armed forces. You have other options such as trading to get to a closer base. But that is an out of pocket expense, while join spouse is government funded.

Don't Do It!

Yes, of course, everything is possible! We can win the Lottery tomorrow! We can inherit a million dollars from a rich uncle in Bolivia! But, let's be real. Chances of a good marriage when you live apart are slim. This is a bond that can only work if you intend to get out of service in a few years. You must find a way to live together to construct a relationship. Having been in the service myself, I know all about the distractions and, of course, there are many. More on "CompatibleLives.com"

Answer 2

In short: yes. There are thousands of military couples (one of them my brother and sister-in-law) and they work. If you're considering getting into a military relationship, talk with your partner and understand what you're getting into. They are generally harder than normal because of the stresses. But, if you really love that person, and (s)he loves you, I have full faith that you can make it work. You wouldn't be the first couple to do so.

yes, because I've been in one for 3 in a half years.

Of course! A military marriage or relationship can be very hard on some however. Your spouse may be absent for long periods of time (dependent on area of service, some recent deployments have lasted a year to 15 months). You have to be far more adaptable than a 'normal' couple, and think of things slightly differently. Communicating is very important in any relationship, but you have the added challenge to think of many new ways to express your love for someone who may be thousands of miles away. email and instant messengers can be invaluable, but you just can't beat a real pen-to-paper letter and care package sometimes! If you aren't an independent person, you may soon become one, as you will be the one paying the bills and dealing the the day to day things whilst your spouse is away. When a spouse comes home from deployment, you may be so used to 'being in charge' of everything that there may be a readjustment period for both of you.

Some people find it very hard to deal with the fact that their spouse is probably in a combat zone or dangerous area when they are away, and sometimes the 'what if..'s can be too much.

You may be stationed in a foreign country, which brings the stresses of being away from the support network of your immediate family and closest friends which for some can be hard, as well as coping with language and cultural differences. This can bring a strain to relationships too. Hopefully though, you and your spouse will be best friends as well as partners (and welcoming to new experiences and places - a great oppurtunity to travel!), and can talk to one another honestly about how you feel, thus strengthening your bond, and supporting one another through the 'bad days'.

You have to be able to accept that your beloved spouse will probably miss out on a lot of special days and events, such as birthdays, holidays like Christmas, and anniversaries. Also remember that should you choose to have children, your spouse may miss the birth, first steps, first words, first day of school etc. However, the military community is so welcoming, and you will always find a strong support network (family centres, Chaplains, FRG's), as well as a 'shoulder to cry on' should you need one. You will also have many other military spouses around you, many of whom will be in the same situation, and who will be more than happy to talk or help out should you need it.

A military marriage can be hell on earth, but can also be one of the strongest relationships there is. You learn to appreciate the time together and not take it for granted as a 'normal' family may do. You have to be flexible, creative, resourceful, strong, and willing to adapt. Sure, it wont always be easy, but then again, few relationships are! Just love one another and stay strong together, and make the most of the benefits of military life :)

Answer 3

The relationships depends on two persons.So it doesnt matter whether it is military or something else.If u hav trust on the guy and u both have faith in each other then ny rltn in this world will work.