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Most abusers firmly believe that their abusive conduct is proof and indication of deep love. In their thwarted minds, abuse, intimacy, and love are inextricable.
The saddest part is that many (but not all) abusers really ARE in love (whatever that means, it's such a subjective term) with their partners, and deep inside are quite horrified by the abuse they inflict.
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Why can an abusive husband love children so much but not be able to show emotional love for his wife?
Abusers rarely love. What they call "love" is possessiveness. It is far easier to control and possess children than adults - hence his preference. Children are more reliable …and malleable sources of emotional gratification, attention, and adoration (narcissistic supply) than adults.
Answer You've taken a really big step forward for yourself. You are the problem that your wife is having and it's YOU that needs therapy. Most women only …ask of their mate that they get help and the wife is usually there 100%. Sounds like your wife would be. You have reasons and problems why you are the way you are, and you can't support her until you get to the root of your own problems and get help for it. She would be so delighted if you were to seek out therapy for your abusive behavior. The fact that you have mentioned it is a miracle in itself and it's sounds like there is a lot of hope for you. Please seek out that therapy. Therapy is a wonderful tool and both men/women get much help as far understanding why they are the way they are and learn tool to deal with it and don't consider yourself weak for seeing a therapist. Weak men are ones that know there is something wrong with them and not getting the help to get them over it. Your wife can support you through this therapy as well and both of you will learn a better way of life. Good luck God Bless Marcy
Can a husband really love his wife when he shows no compassion or remorse for his verbal abuse toward his disabled wife?
Answer YES, definitely! The verbal abuse is probably a result of a shortcoming in the husband, or to his mind, anyway. It probably has nothing …to do with his wife..This is why evaluation and therapy is so paramount to getting to the bottom of all this pain, if you both love each other enough to commit to it. And..Don't forget God ! ! Good luck to you both....
Love is important between the husband and the wife because along with love comes respect for each other so you should know when you no longer love someone because the re…spect that you had for them is lost along with the love.
For extended periods where there is no physical or emotional reason for refusal, it is abandonment and emotional abuse. Of course a loving husband isn't going to force anythin…g on someone they promise to love/honor/cherish, but if the wife refuses for months and years because she is angry and/or resentful... that's abandonment and selfish. Sex is part of the relationship and the marriage covenant to put the other person's needs ahead of personal agenda. If the wife can't see this as a need just as food or oxygen, she is selfish to the point of being emotionally abusive. Same is true in reverse. When I hear of men that won't have sex with their wives for years, I want to scream. His primary job is to build up and encourage his wife, and to love her unconditionally. If he can't turn down the lights and do things that make her feel special, he is cruel and selfish. He is isolating her, with holding affection, and being a jerk. It's emotionally abusive for either to worry about themselves when their spouse has a need.
Anything is possible, but acting on it would not be acceptable. In my opinion, if a person can no longer honor their marriage vows, they ought to file for divorce prio…r to straying. The only exception to this would be the rare 'open' marriage in which both spouses have agreed upon their own particular rules of fidelity. And I wouldn't take a cheating spouse's word for it that theirs was an open marriage.
it can be possible ANSWER: For some yes they do but not the way he use to love her. If this married man really love his wife, and I mean truly love his wife, do you think he …will think of hurting her even betrayed her? I think not. For some married man who do cheat, their love for their wife is not the same anymore. For some married woman who ends up cheating, they also still love their husband but it was the husband who push the wife to go to another man.
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If a husband always verbally abuse his wife should she still stay in the abuse knowing that his wife don't love him anymore?
Verbal abuse could lead to physical abuse or even to fatality! If you are in a marriage that has no love - get out!
If your husband is verbally abusive and controlling you fall out of love to the point that you are now in love with another man should you stay married for the sake of the kids?
I think its important to try and stay with some one for the sake of your children, but it sounds like your marrige is so bad, that all you are likely to be doing is upsetting …the children with your arguments, and him being abusive to you. I think long term, the children will be happier if you split up, and they could see both their parents truly happy.
WHEN husband abuse the wife the judge empathized with the abuser husband wife is afraid still what can she do?
The only thing you can do at that point is get out. Get to a shelter, get to a friend or relative. There are legal services available to abuse victims, any paperwork you have …from the courts if you can safely take it with you do so, if not copies are available at the county offices. No one wants to believe a judge would empathize with an abuser in this "enlightened" day and age. But judges are human too, and abusers come in all shapes and sizes. Including those draped in the Robes of Justice. A judge who would refuse help to a victim of abuse is abusing the powers of the office. If you believe you can't walk away, can you at least pack an emergency bag, with a couple changes of clothing, some cash if you can secret some away and anything you think you would need in an emergency. If their are children in the home who need to be protected pack a few of their things too.
NO -- Of course they can, anybody can abuse anybody.
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If a wife physically or verbally abuses her husband she will get the same treatment as a man who physically or verbally abuses his wife. If she leaves any physical marks on th…e husband he can call the police and press charges and often the wife is taken away in handcuffs for a cooling off period (overnight) until the husband decides to press charges or not. However, for both husbands and wives it is difficult to prove verbal abuse unless others in the home phone the police or neighbors phone the police.
Because he is insecure. It has nothing to do with the wife's actions. Or he simply wants to assert control over her. Again tho that's because of insecurity.
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