The problem your dealing with, evident in all parts of your question, is that you need to appreciate there needs to be a serious change in your life. Whether it seems that way to you or not, your simply spending more, leading a life style you CANNOT AFFORD. Your entire lifestyle needs to change. You need to establish a budget and then live within it, regardless of what "sacrafices" that means... get financial counseling to appreciate what the effect of your actions is.
Creditors list the charge off date as the date the bankrupcty was filed
The bankruptcy will appear on their credit if you include this card in your bankruptcy. If you leave the card off the bankruptcy, it will not effect their credit.
If what is meant by "prenuptials" is a guarantee that a new spouse will not be affected by a bankruptcy discharge made by their husband or wife before the marriage, then no there is not such a thing. A spouse is not directly affected by a bankruptcy incurred before marriage by their partner. The exception being the effect it might have on the couple when applying for joint credit.
will bankruptcy increase you credit score over time
If your partner files for bankruptcy and you don't then the bankruptcy will not appear on your credit report. But you will be partly responsible for before bankruptcy filing. Generally filing bankruptcy will affect the credit rating of the individual who filed it.
Filing bankruptcy does not remove a charge off report from a credit card on your credit report. It just adds bankruptcy to your credit report.
You do not have to necessarily get credit counseling before you can file for bankruptcy.
A bankruptcy will remain on a credit report for the required ten years, it cannot be removed arbitrarily.
when you file for bankruptcy you waive your debt, take a big hit to your credit and lose some possesions, as for your specific case its a crap shoot
The only way to remove a bankruptcy from your credit report is to dispute it to the credit bureaus. The credit bureaus have 30 days under the Fair Credit Reporting Act, to verify your bankruptcy withe the court that filed it or it must be removed from your credit report.
Debts included in the bankruptcy should be noted as such in the credit report. The bankruptcy will remain on the credit report for ten years.
No. Backruptcy will always appear on your credit. After 7-10 years your credit will be as good as someone who has not filed bankruptcy.